http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/ en Fri, 24 Jul 2015 17:54:49 +0000 http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-do-you-strive-for-in-bein-adam-lchaveiro#post-221592 Thu, 10 Mar 2011 11:07:58 +0000 ZeesKite 221592@http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/ <p>m in Israel:</p> <p>See? I told you it was my VERY humble opinion. People don't believe me. Brains and zees kites don't always go together. (live in Israel? Avira D'Eretz Yisroel Machkim)</p> <p>Yes, you're right. Emuna is the root of the problem. Thanks for taking the time to correct me. </p> http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-do-you-strive-for-in-bein-adam-lchaveiro#post-221527 Thu, 10 Mar 2011 03:44:41 +0000 m in Israel 221527@http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/ <p>ZeesKite -- If one is truly happy for their friend's good luck, success, happiness, then they would not have the jealousy problem. The question is how do you get to the point of not being jealous? Many of the sifrei mussar explain jealousy as coming from a lack of emunah, rather than as you imply a lack of Ahavas Yisroel. In other words, if we could somehow truly internalized the concept that Hashem runs the world, and that what someone else has in no way "takes away" from what we have, and that Hashem is absolutely just and exacting in his cheshbonos even if to us it doesn't seem "fair", there would be no more jealousy. </p> http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-do-you-strive-for-in-bein-adam-lchaveiro#post-221385 Wed, 09 Mar 2011 20:27:18 +0000 ZeesKite 221385@http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/ <p>Thanks for you well wishes.</p> <p>I don't know in which thread to answer you. In my very humble opinion, the real defense, answer to jealousy is to work on the midda, like you so well wrote here. The other answers our fine posters gave, seem to me as just a work around. To me it seems, the way to overcome jealousy is to truly be happy for your friend’s good luck, success, happiness. That is the essence of ואהבת לרעך כמוך, you and your friend are as one, no need for jealousy. It seems far-fetched, but it’s HaShem who empowers us – He commanded לא תחמוד, and He gives us the wherewithal to carry it out.<br /> I may write more on this later, with the olam's approval. </p> http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-do-you-strive-for-in-bein-adam-lchaveiro#post-221384 Wed, 09 Mar 2011 20:21:45 +0000 metrodriver 221384@http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/ <p>Zeeskite; No. my 'keyboarding' isn't so "Sharp". You don't have to keep a distance. Wish you could see the pieces (Posts) the Mods (Both, here and the other Jewish website.) didn't let through. </p> http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-do-you-strive-for-in-bein-adam-lchaveiro#post-221318 Wed, 09 Mar 2011 18:01:08 +0000 observanteen 221318@http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/ <p>I strive to love every single Yid, to forgive, to accept others for who they are, to be REALLY happy when they get/have something I lack, to understand, to be dan lekaf zechus .... Have I missed anything, Zees? Refuah Sheleima! I wish you a speedy recovery!! </p> http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-do-you-strive-for-in-bein-adam-lchaveiro#post-221195 Wed, 09 Mar 2011 15:02:32 +0000 ZeesKite 221195@http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/ <p>metrodriver:</p> <p>I know it's a bit lofty, if I keep on it, thinking about it, something of this may rub off, or it might just click in one day. </p> <p>btw Is your 'keyboarding' as sharp as you tongue too? Do we have to keep a distance? </p> http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-do-you-strive-for-in-bein-adam-lchaveiro#post-221172 Wed, 09 Mar 2011 14:38:19 +0000 i am here 221172@http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/ <p>zeeskite- refuah shelama </p> http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-do-you-strive-for-in-bein-adam-lchaveiro#post-221162 Wed, 09 Mar 2011 14:28:12 +0000 metrodriver 221162@http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/ <p>Zeeskite; You have enumerated lofty goals, indeed. I personally am not at this (Lofty) Madregah, yet. My present (spiritual) standing is, that if attacked, (Mostly verbally) I plead with the attacker to cease and desist before I unleash a befitting retort, which the perpetrator will surely not like. I am (B"H) blessed with a sharp tongue that can really penetrate the kishkes (Guts, blaa"z). As far as flying off the handle (You) due to a (Chronic) cold. It's simple. Take some over the counter cold remedy. </p> http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-do-you-strive-for-in-bein-adam-lchaveiro#post-221026 Wed, 09 Mar 2011 10:46:11 +0000 ZeesKite 221026@http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/ <p>Sorry to sound so lofty and sublime. I generally tend to fly (hence ‘Kite’) off the handle at the un-human early hours of the morning, with a persisting cold, cough, headache and accessories. Pardon.<br /> (It's a nice concept, though) </p> http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-do-you-strive-for-in-bein-adam-lchaveiro#post-220967 Wed, 09 Mar 2011 05:18:42 +0000 ZeesKite 220967@http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/ <p>Me? I aspire to emulate the ways of David HaMelech, ואני בחלותם לבושי שק to Daven and feel for someone who has wronged myself. To help out and befriend a competitor. To ask Mechila and appease, comfort someone whom has insulted, slandered or abused me. To truly be a משלם טובה תחת רעה. </p> <p>I read somewhere, sometimes ago, that HaShem judges, deals with a person the way that person conduct himself/herself. (I shouldn’t say this but) I realize and know my account is not by any way clean, maybe I stand chance by internalizing my aspirations and modifying my behavior. </p>