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  • #595987

    emailsnotallowed
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    Im looking for a shadchan that is open minded and knows guys that are from out of town with an out of town mentality but yet deals with frum people who learn and work at the same time. I also dont believe in this business where they charge thousands of dollars!!! do these people think that people are growing money in the garden??? I want someone that will treat a shidduch as a shidduch and not a buisness deal. If anyone has names and phone numbers that would be great.

    #1166144

    yaff80
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    I dont get it. Do they sell shadchanim in the local hypermarket? I guess you get what you pay for!

    If the famous saying “Pay peanuts and you’ll get monkeys” is true, I would be put off a cheap shadchan. Who wants to marry a monkey? (unless you shtam from darwin!)

    In my times, you didnt choose a shadchan. The guy who succeeds in suggesting the right match, gets paid for his/her services. It wasnt something you could choose.

    #1166145

    yaff80: What a sensitive response! Nice.

    It just so happens that Meir Applebaum of Torah tapes has made about 100 more difficult shidduchim, and has always refused pay. There are others as well.

    (This doesn’t detract from the wonderful shadchonim who do it for the Mitzvah, but take their fair pay)

    #1166146

    hanib
    Participant

    why not call shadchanim from out of town places, connected to out of town yeshivos where the guys also take college classes?

    #1166147

    yaff80, you obviously haven’t ever been in the parsha or not in it for long. A little sensitivity could take you far in life.

    My suggestion would be to make really good friends (who truly care about you and) whose husbands have good friends that they can set you up with.

    #1166148

    always here
    Participant

    R’Apflebaum made my daughter’s shidduch 8 yrs ago.. I think back then they were #82. funny, he knew the boy.. but I never knew how he got my daughter’s name. lo chashuv… Baruch Hashem!

    #1166149

    happiest
    Member

    Does anyone have Rav Appelbaums phone number or contact information?

    Thanks!

    #1166150

    adorable
    Participant

    You can try my dad! LOL my parents are always busy with it on the phone and have made about 30 so far….

    #1166152

    I tried posting the number. Look up Torah tapes in Boro Park. Same number

    #1166153

    Shticky Guy
    Participant

    Not pricey shadchan? Shouldnt that be in the oxymoron thread… ???

    #1166154

    happiest
    Member

    Just found this list on a diff website. Don’t know if it’s useful or not… Don’t know what #’s are current and what’s not but worth a try. Hatzlacha!

    Frieda Goldman 410-415-5836

    Mrs. Fleishman 410-358-6750

    Rachelle Goldberg 410-484-2291

    Rebbetzin Berkowitz 410-484-6209

    Yocheved Lapidus 410-653-0405

    Rabbi Pinchas Horowitz (involved in kiruv) 718-436-7373 x17 (M-Th) 718-438-8462

    Anna Aronowitz 718-436-4565

    Esther Bader 718-633-5854

    Invei HaGefen (organization) 718-256-7525

    Judy Lustig 718-998-2391

    Mrs. Braun 718-253-8558

    Mrs. David 718-435-2179

    Mrs. Eichenthal 718-633-4440

    Shirley Weiner 718-692-4187

    Loretta Koslowsky 718-891-8235 9 am-4 pm and 9-11 pm

    Rabbi Shmulevitz (Landers) 718-336-7388

    Ateret Esther (organization) 845-425-6220

    Aviva Orleans 845-364-0572 (works with Fayge Rudman)

    Barbara Fischer 845-425-2785

    Beverly Gross 845-352-0373

    Chaya Gradman 845-425-2740

    Chaya Landerer 845-352-1211

    Esther Schwed 845-485-9886

    Esti Byer 845-354-4806

    Fayge Rudman 845-362-8168 best to contact by email: shadchan@juno.com

    Rabbi Mendlowitz 845-425-8020

    Yvette Kranz 845-362-5957

    Zelda Cutler 845-425-7788 zeldacutler@gmail.com

    Mrs. Shaffer 845-425-6620

    Lara Schulman 973-473-5320

    Marla Schachter 973-470-9492

    Sandy Avrahami 973-614-0771

    Shaindel Steinberg 973-779-4738

    Shunie Perlmuter 973-458-0990

    Varda Berkovitz 973-472-6588

    Yehudis Rosenbaum 973-777-5836

    Rivkie Powers 215-745-1557 ( Monday nights)

    RabbiLevy 732-364-2542

    Tova Weinberg 412-421-2221 tova.weinberg@verizon.net

    Ilana Brown ilanatoronto@gmail.com

    DebbieSpira debbiespira@gmail.com

    5 Towns Shidduch Group 718-471-7057 or 516-371-2931

    Aliza Raskin 718-268-8238

    Chavi Bernson 718-805-4513

    Committee of Cong. Ahavas Israel shidduch@caykgh.org

    Hashevaynu (organization) 718-275-2200

    Hillcrest Shidduch Committee 718-591-5247 (Sam Kosofsky: sak2120@aol.com)

    Kesher of Queens 718-846-2957 (Mrs. Sora Richter) or 718-441-3144 (Rolly Respler)

    Rabbi Eliezer Lederfeind (Jewish hearing impaired Singles Registry Orthodox Union)212-613-8234

    Lita Aeder 718-575-2990

    Network of YI of Jamaica Estates718-479-7500 (Karen Hochberg)

    Rabbi Singer (Chofetz Chaim) 718-441-4982.

    Rabbi Yenkelowitz 718-846-3472

    Mrs. Shulamith Bechhofer 718-868-3968 8-10:00 pm

    Joanne Bane 516-371-6657

    Shani Fasten 718-868-0079 fastenn@earthlink.net

    Florence Sofer 718-327-0449 before 8:30pm

    Frimit Mirocznik 718-327-1155 evenings 7-9:00pm frimitm@yahoo.com

    #1166155

    happiest
    Member

    So sad:( I just posted a HUGE list of shadchanim (haven’t heard of most of them) but I guess the mods didn’t want to let it through. I’m sorry!

    PS- who calls the shadchanim for you; you or a parent? I call for myself but I’m wondering what to do if it’s a male shadchan. Can I call anyway?

    #1166156

    GumBall
    Member

    How about Lewnstein or meir Levy Fom Lakewood??

    #1166157

    DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    I also dont believe in this business where they charge thousands of dollars!!! do these people think that people are growing money in the garden???

    I don’t think that’s fair. Do you have any ides how much time they spend on shidduchim? Are they not entitled to make a parnassa? There’s nothing wrong with your question; you’re entitled to look for a less expensive shadchan if you want, but not to demean those working hard to set up Jewish homes who are fully entitled to make a living.

    #1166158

    DY: It didn’t sound demeaning to me. To paraphrase HKB”H to Yaakov, “kach onim h’umlollos?”

    #1166159

    AZOI.IS
    Participant

    Can anyone post an updated list, if there is one, of Shadchanim who deal with “Black Hat” boys who are learning and going to college, in the New York area?

    Otherwise any names and numbers of current Shadchanim will be appreciated. Thanks.

    I think some shadchanim had objected to having their numbers posted in the past

    #1166160

    AZOI.IS
    Participant

    OK, how about just suggesting Shadchanim’s names here, and I’ll ask around and get the numbers?

    #1166161

    takahmamash
    Participant

    I’m interested – how much does the average shadchan charge if one of his/her couples gets married? What’s the going rate?

    #1166162

    Sparkly
    Member

    me too. i agree shidduchim shouldnt be treated as a “business deal”.

    #1166163

    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    i agree shidduchim shouldnt be treated as a “business deal”.

    Then I suppose you don’t people who do shadchanus for a living.

    Look, I didn’t have a shadchan. I met Eees on my own. But if that wasn’t an option and I had to obtain the services of a professional, I would certainly think that they should be paid for their time and effort. Why should a shadchan be any different than anyone else providing a service to you?

    The Wolf

    #1166164

    Sparkly
    Member

    WolfishMusings – you said you got married at 21 to a 19 year old girl that you met by yourself. were you otd?

    #1166165

    Meno
    Participant

    Sparkly,

    You clearly have a strange definition of OTD

    #1166166

    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    WolfishMusings – you said you got married at 21 to a 19 year old girl that you met by yourself. were you otd?

    If your definition of off the derech is “meeting your spouse by yourself,” then yes, I’m off the derech.

    The Wolf

    #1166167

    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    “If your definition of off the derech is “meeting your spouse by yourself,” then yes, I’m off the derech.”

    In that case, I have always wanted to be off the derech but haven’t managed to yet. I didn’t realize going off the derech was so difficult…

    #1166170

    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    In that case, I have always wanted to be off the derech but haven’t managed to yet. I didn’t realize going off the derech was so difficult…

    I hope you find your zivvug soon — whether it’s on your own or via a shadchan.

    The Wolf

    #1166171

    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Wolf – Amen! Thanks.

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