March 29, 2011 5:57 pm at 5:57 pm #595987
Im looking for a shadchan that is open minded and knows guys that are from out of town with an out of town mentality but yet deals with frum people who learn and work at the same time. I also dont believe in this business where they charge thousands of dollars!!! do these people think that people are growing money in the garden??? I want someone that will treat a shidduch as a shidduch and not a buisness deal. If anyone has names and phone numbers that would be great.March 29, 2011 6:24 pm at 6:24 pm #1166144
I dont get it. Do they sell shadchanim in the local hypermarket? I guess you get what you pay for!
If the famous saying “Pay peanuts and you’ll get monkeys” is true, I would be put off a cheap shadchan. Who wants to marry a monkey? (unless you shtam from darwin!)
In my times, you didnt choose a shadchan. The guy who succeeds in suggesting the right match, gets paid for his/her services. It wasnt something you could choose.March 29, 2011 6:42 pm at 6:42 pm #1166145
yaff80: What a sensitive response! Nice.
It just so happens that Meir Applebaum of Torah tapes has made about 100 more difficult shidduchim, and has always refused pay. There are others as well.
(This doesn’t detract from the wonderful shadchonim who do it for the Mitzvah, but take their fair pay)March 30, 2011 2:03 pm at 2:03 pm #1166146
why not call shadchanim from out of town places, connected to out of town yeshivos where the guys also take college classes?March 30, 2011 2:19 pm at 2:19 pm #1166147
stuck in brooklynMember
yaff80, you obviously haven’t ever been in the parsha or not in it for long. A little sensitivity could take you far in life.
My suggestion would be to make really good friends (who truly care about you and) whose husbands have good friends that they can set you up with.March 30, 2011 2:36 pm at 2:36 pm #1166148
R’Apflebaum made my daughter’s shidduch 8 yrs ago.. I think back then they were #82. funny, he knew the boy.. but I never knew how he got my daughter’s name. lo chashuv… Baruch Hashem!March 30, 2011 8:06 pm at 8:06 pm #1166149
Does anyone have Rav Appelbaums phone number or contact information?
Thanks!March 30, 2011 8:12 pm at 8:12 pm #1166150
You can try my dad! LOL my parents are always busy with it on the phone and have made about 30 so far….March 30, 2011 9:21 pm at 9:21 pm #1166152
I tried posting the number. Look up Torah tapes in Boro Park. Same numberMarch 30, 2011 11:01 pm at 11:01 pm #1166153
Not pricey shadchan? Shouldnt that be in the oxymoron thread… ???March 30, 2011 11:55 pm at 11:55 pm #1166154
Just found this list on a diff website. Don’t know if it’s useful or not… Don’t know what #’s are current and what’s not but worth a try. Hatzlacha!
Frieda Goldman 410-415-5836
Mrs. Fleishman 410-358-6750
Rachelle Goldberg 410-484-2291
Rebbetzin Berkowitz 410-484-6209
Yocheved Lapidus 410-653-0405
Rabbi Pinchas Horowitz (involved in kiruv) 718-436-7373 x17 (M-Th) 718-438-8462
Anna Aronowitz 718-436-4565
Esther Bader 718-633-5854
Invei HaGefen (organization) 718-256-7525
Judy Lustig 718-998-2391
Mrs. Braun 718-253-8558
Mrs. David 718-435-2179
Mrs. Eichenthal 718-633-4440
Shirley Weiner 718-692-4187
Loretta Koslowsky 718-891-8235 9 am-4 pm and 9-11 pm
Rabbi Shmulevitz (Landers) 718-336-7388
Ateret Esther (organization) 845-425-6220
Aviva Orleans 845-364-0572 (works with Fayge Rudman)
Barbara Fischer 845-425-2785
Beverly Gross 845-352-0373
Chaya Gradman 845-425-2740
Chaya Landerer 845-352-1211
Esther Schwed 845-485-9886
Esti Byer 845-354-4806
Fayge Rudman 845-362-8168 best to contact by email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Rabbi Mendlowitz 845-425-8020
Yvette Kranz 845-362-5957
Zelda Cutler 845-425-7788 email@example.com
Mrs. Shaffer 845-425-6620
Lara Schulman 973-473-5320
Marla Schachter 973-470-9492
Sandy Avrahami 973-614-0771
Shaindel Steinberg 973-779-4738
Shunie Perlmuter 973-458-0990
Varda Berkovitz 973-472-6588
Yehudis Rosenbaum 973-777-5836
Rivkie Powers 215-745-1557 ( Monday nights)
Tova Weinberg 412-421-2221 firstname.lastname@example.org
Ilana Brown email@example.com
5 Towns Shidduch Group 718-471-7057 or 516-371-2931
Aliza Raskin 718-268-8238
Chavi Bernson 718-805-4513
Committee of Cong. Ahavas Israel firstname.lastname@example.org
Hashevaynu (organization) 718-275-2200
Hillcrest Shidduch Committee 718-591-5247 (Sam Kosofsky: email@example.com)
Kesher of Queens 718-846-2957 (Mrs. Sora Richter) or 718-441-3144 (Rolly Respler)
Rabbi Eliezer Lederfeind (Jewish hearing impaired Singles Registry Orthodox Union)212-613-8234
Lita Aeder 718-575-2990
Network of YI of Jamaica Estates718-479-7500 (Karen Hochberg)
Rabbi Singer (Chofetz Chaim) 718-441-4982.
Rabbi Yenkelowitz 718-846-3472
Mrs. Shulamith Bechhofer 718-868-3968 8-10:00 pm
Joanne Bane 516-371-6657
Shani Fasten 718-868-0079 firstname.lastname@example.org
Florence Sofer 718-327-0449 before 8:30pm
Frimit Mirocznik 718-327-1155 evenings 7-9:00pm email@example.comMarch 31, 2011 12:35 am at 12:35 am #1166155
So sad:( I just posted a HUGE list of shadchanim (haven’t heard of most of them) but I guess the mods didn’t want to let it through. I’m sorry!
PS- who calls the shadchanim for you; you or a parent? I call for myself but I’m wondering what to do if it’s a male shadchan. Can I call anyway?March 31, 2011 1:57 am at 1:57 am #1166156
How about Lewnstein or meir Levy Fom Lakewood??March 31, 2011 1:23 pm at 1:23 pm #1166157
I also dont believe in this business where they charge thousands of dollars!!! do these people think that people are growing money in the garden???
I don’t think that’s fair. Do you have any ides how much time they spend on shidduchim? Are they not entitled to make a parnassa? There’s nothing wrong with your question; you’re entitled to look for a less expensive shadchan if you want, but not to demean those working hard to set up Jewish homes who are fully entitled to make a living.March 31, 2011 3:07 pm at 3:07 pm #1166158
DY: It didn’t sound demeaning to me. To paraphrase HKB”H to Yaakov, “kach onim h’umlollos?”August 10, 2016 1:39 pm at 1:39 pm #1166159
Can anyone post an updated list, if there is one, of Shadchanim who deal with “Black Hat” boys who are learning and going to college, in the New York area?
Otherwise any names and numbers of current Shadchanim will be appreciated. Thanks.
I think some shadchanim had objected to having their numbers posted in the pastAugust 11, 2016 4:49 am at 4:49 am #1166160
OK, how about just suggesting Shadchanim’s names here, and I’ll ask around and get the numbers?August 11, 2016 6:00 am at 6:00 am #1166161
I’m interested – how much does the average shadchan charge if one of his/her couples gets married? What’s the going rate?August 11, 2016 10:50 am at 10:50 am #1166162
me too. i agree shidduchim shouldnt be treated as a “business deal”.August 11, 2016 12:44 pm at 12:44 pm #1166163
i agree shidduchim shouldnt be treated as a “business deal”.
Then I suppose you don’t people who do shadchanus for a living.
Look, I didn’t have a shadchan. I met Eees on my own. But if that wasn’t an option and I had to obtain the services of a professional, I would certainly think that they should be paid for their time and effort. Why should a shadchan be any different than anyone else providing a service to you?
The WolfAugust 14, 2016 9:48 pm at 9:48 pm #1166164
WolfishMusings – you said you got married at 21 to a 19 year old girl that you met by yourself. were you otd?August 16, 2016 4:03 pm at 4:03 pm #1166165
You clearly have a strange definition of OTDAugust 17, 2016 1:26 am at 1:26 am #1166166
WolfishMusings – you said you got married at 21 to a 19 year old girl that you met by yourself. were you otd?
If your definition of off the derech is “meeting your spouse by yourself,” then yes, I’m off the derech.
The WolfAugust 17, 2016 1:34 am at 1:34 am #1166167
“If your definition of off the derech is “meeting your spouse by yourself,” then yes, I’m off the derech.”
In that case, I have always wanted to be off the derech but haven’t managed to yet. I didn’t realize going off the derech was so difficult…August 17, 2016 2:48 am at 2:48 am #1166170
In that case, I have always wanted to be off the derech but haven’t managed to yet. I didn’t realize going off the derech was so difficult…
I hope you find your zivvug soon — whether it’s on your own or via a shadchan.
The WolfAugust 17, 2016 5:44 am at 5:44 am #1166171
Wolf – Amen! Thanks.
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