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Posted 10 months ago #
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moski: Why are you sticking out your tongue at me? I was agreeing with you :[
Posted 10 months ago # -
No I wasn't. I meant :D
Posted 10 months ago # -
Lifestyle-shmifestyle. You're either a Torah-observant Yid or you're not. Brony, you don't get it.
OOHOOHOOH
It's been awhile since
I've been hated on like this
Anyway, thanks much
this will certainly shorten my
calls to girls' references.
BEFORE:
*Phone ringing*
[ ';']): Hello?
( '.')): Hi, it's brony, do you know ____?
[ ';']): Yes
( '.')): Can you rate her beauty on a level from 1-10
[ ';']): Are you serious?
( '.')): Yes
[ ';']): ....
( '.')): ....
*Line goes dead*
AFTER:
*Phone ringing*
[ ';']): Hello?
( '.')): Hi, it's brony, do you know ____?
[ ';']): Yes
( '.')): Is she a Torah-observant Yid?
[ ';']): Yes
( '.')): Thank you, I will marry her.
[ ';']): ...
( '.')): ...
*Line goes dead*
Posted 10 months ago # -
Brony: YOU have no SWAG. SWAG doesnt come from WHAT SHOES YOU WEAR
or WHAT CAR YOU DRIVE. ANYBODY can wear those SHOES if they wanted.
LOLOLOL
Lots of hating up
in Yeshiva World
You are correct
TO AN EXTENT;
however, you are still
FUNDAMENTALLY MISTAKEN.
what makes a girl "stylish" or "trendy"?
what makes someone a trendsetter?
It's called SWAG, my friend
it's true, you must
have it IN YOU
but you must
exude it externally
as well.
If you have any
further questions about SWAG,
please feel free to ask.
Stay cool, don't hate
Posted 10 months ago # -
i know i'm gonna seem shallow now, sure sure, i'll let everyone give me chai v'kayam for this- i don't really like when guys wear colored shirts in general. (ok everyone, start screaming at me. i'm waiting) but i wouldn't turn a guy down for it straight from the beginning. cuz i know that's not what its all about. i mean, i don't mind like polo shirts when he's cleaning for pesach or building the sukkah or any dirty work.
Your HONESTY and BOLDNESS
are MOST APPRECIATED,
this thread is a JUDGEMENT-FREE ZONE,
although there has been
some hate as of late :(
Because you have been
so CANDID,
I will add a CONFESSION as well:
I generally use a combination of
BINARY AND ZIP CODE
rating methodologies
when assessing beauty
First # is face (1-10)
Second # is yes (1)/no (0) marry <-- Binary
Third # is body (1-10)
10 is a zero
So a 717
is 7 face, yes marry, 7 body
404
is 4 face, no marry, 4 body
019
is 10 face (nonexistent), YES MARRY, 9 body
LADIES,
can you think
of a better system?
this one took years
of careful research,
feel free to APPROPRIATE
this system
to rate guys
Posted 10 months ago # -
What, nobody agrees? Or nobody heard of Jonah? If the latter, I only recommend Brony to look it up.
Posted 10 months ago # -
I interpret a swag as gaava. Am I alone on this?
Also, if her friend that was asked info from repeats the whole conversation without filtering, she's more insensitive than the guy who asked.
Posted 10 months ago # -
what in the world happened to the classic rating system for girls? im totally fine with the way it was before...1-10 rating works just perfectly
Posted 10 months ago # -
Mammele: No not at all. I agree. Though the real meaning is to walk in a cool way. I interpret swag as a little game for uncool people to do stuff some guy decided should be considered "cool".
Posted 10 months ago # -
my roommate taped a piece of tape with the word SWAG on it to the light switch so he could "get out of bed and turn his swag on"
Posted 10 months ago # -
Thanks moski for agreeing with me. I was afraid I was the odd (wo)man out, and on a yeshivish site yet ... Which brings me to your game -- aka known as peer pressure -- which I obviously was just a victim to, although I'm not such a good player...
Lol to you and zb.
Posted 10 months ago # -
I like people to be real, non-pretentious, no swagger, just simple menschlechkeit. I never went for the "cool" guys, and certainly didn't marry one. But I did marry the warmest, kindest,sweetest "nerdy" baal chessed on the planet. You can keep cool. I'm happy with what I've got.
Posted 10 months ago # -
Well...back to the original question...I personally like colored shirts on boys, especially on dates. A nice blue, green or pin striped shirt is great.
My questions to boys:
What do you think a girl should order on a date? What should she never order?
If she is the same height as you should she not wear heels?
Finally if it didn't work out between the two of you would you ever consider suggesting your friend for her?Posted 10 months ago # -
Yellow123: She should or a salad. Never order something messy or something you eat with your hands.
Posted 10 months ago # -
Order an easy to cut piece of chicken cutlet, if out for fleishigs, or a piece of fish if dairy. DO NOT ever on a first date order falafel in a pita, or spaghetti. BBQ ribs are a no-no, too.
Probably a good idea not to wear heels in such a case as same height.
I would always consider if someone was not for me, whether or not that personw ould be good for someone else I know. My nephew married his lovely wife because his best friend went out with her first and realized that my nephew was more shayach for her than himself. he was right.
Posted 10 months ago # -
what in the world happened to the classic rating system for girls? im totally fine with the way it was before...1-10 rating works just perfectly
What about the classic rating system for guys? I'm totally fine with the way it was when I was single . . . somewhat jerky - total jerk.
(Obviously I've matured since then)
Posted 10 months ago # -
SWAG = Confidence
It is sorely lacking
in the frum world.
HTH.
Posted 10 months ago # -
Or swag equals pretending to be confident while being petrified of being considered uncool...
Really, confidence is a positive thing, flaunting your confidence not so much.
What's HTH ?
Posted 10 months ago # -
LOL I was cracking up from this thread!! I dont think guys should ask for pictures in the first place but if the guy is asking for a picture then at least he should give a picture in return. and to guys who want to wear crazy colored sox wear them to sleep but not in the street. did anyone hear of the new site that just launched zivugzone.com ? -for orthodox singles like chassidish,yeshivish,leaning yeshivish,mchmir modern...... -can do through a shadchan as one of the options
Posted 10 months ago # -
SWAG= No confidence. You have no confidence so you try to be like someone else.
Posted 10 months ago # -
Where do the swaggies get the money to spend on clothes and trinkets is it all money earned from odd jobs during bain hazmanim or is it
C hopped
A ssets
S queezed from
H arried parentsPosted 10 months ago # -
princess17- i heard of it, and i even went on the site to see what its like. no, i did not sign on. here's what i think about it. first of all, i don't believe that its for the yeshivish/very frum crowd at all! boys and girls from those circles will most likely NOT be going online to find their zivug. second of all, we just had this whole internet asifa crying out against the internet, and all of a sudden, a few weeks later, its ok to have a dating website??? i think that is quite ironic, and quite inexcusable, even tho it has the word yeshivish/frum attached to it. and third- their compatibility test, or whatever. what do they do, just stick you with someone who sounds like they have the same personality (and all the external stuff) and decide you're good for each other??? there's much more to it than that. i don't agree with this whole thing AT ALL.
Posted 10 months ago # -
swag=trying to be cool! love that cash definition!
Posted 10 months ago # -
OH MAN OH MAN
so much derp
I can't take it.
First of all, Moskidoodle(?)
You have defined CONFORMITY
not SWAG, which by definition
means NOT being
like anybody else.
As for The Goq
(how do people think of these
ridiculous usernames?)
done correctly,
SWAG need not be
EXPENSIVE whatsoever.
Personally, I hit up
Target all the time.
Frankly, I think
you guys are betas.
:(
LADIES (and men, actually),
what would do
if you were dating a guy/girl
who seemed awesome
but their breath
smelled HORRENDOUS?
Dealbreaker?
Posted 10 months ago # -
yummy cupcake- i agree with ur point especially about the internet asifa! but putting that aside people still use the internet including people like u and me. , so if the internet is still being used then we should use it for a good purpose.Boys are lost in a forest as they say and girls are lost in a dessert-so according to boys they have piles and piles of resumes to go through and they think all the girls sound the same, so if they use this website then they might actually get a girl who is really shayich for them and theyre personality.It can give girls a way to get ahold of boys as a possible shidduch for them which is something that is very hard to do these days for a girl.The more yeshivish people will do it through a shadchan of course which is one of the options.If it helps at least 1 couple get engaged then its worth it ! DOnt u think??
Posted 10 months ago # -
(how do people think of these
ridiculous usernames?)
ooh ooh, the hate!
Posted 10 months ago # -
Swag means confidence.
It also means
arrogance, boasting
and bragging.
My Little Pony lovers
are too awesome
for the CR.
Please leave.
Posted 10 months ago # -
LADIES (and men, actually),
what would do
if you were dating a guy/girl
who seemed awesome
but their breath
smelled HORRENDOUS?
Dealbreaker?
I could totally see you needing this one.
Posted 10 months ago # -
princess, not necessarily. well, not for me or any of my friends for that matter. they kinds of boys we are looking for would not touch a dating website... obviously, neither would we. i think for the other ppl its geared towards, it might do something, cuz they would probably use shidduch world or frumster or whatever. but no i don't think that its gonna work for the yeshivish/very frum crowd.
Posted 10 months ago # -
if the girl is as tall as the guy she should not wear heels! and if shes taller then she should slouch the entire time
Posted 10 months ago # -
yummy cupcake-well ur probably right but then again you never know!! I wouldnt be surprised if some mothers who want to get theyr sons married would take the test according to their sons personality and then if a shidduch comes up, say somthing came up to theyr son and not tell the boy where its really from till after they go out!! it depends how yeshivish people are- if they have internet then they cant be that yeshivish like u and me , even if you say u want someone yeshivish then why are you on cofeeroom??
Posted 10 months ago # -
I am not in the פרשה yet, but from this thread and about a billion others on the coffee room [especially http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/funny-shidduch-stories,
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/learning-boy-1,
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-does-a-girl-look-for-in-a-guy
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-to-look-for-in-a-guy
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/guys-shidduch-resume
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/help-how-do-i-make-a-shidduch-resume
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/better-girls-than-boys
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/better-boys-than-girls
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/yeshivah-guy-ordering-beer-on-a-date
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/girls-thoughts-on-boys
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/girls-thoughts-on-boys-datingBit of repetition, no???
Posted 10 months ago # -
it looks like its trying to copy jDate.
I have my personal opinion about online dating. I think a) anyone can log on and can pretend their this amazing person. You have to be careful. My experiences went from ok, to talking to a stalker, to completely wasting my time...
It CAN work but you gotta sift through the "garbage" before you can come across someone normal. But my theory is - of your normal and your on it - chances are there are some guys that are normal and are on it.HOWEVER the biggest problem with online dating sites is I found the majority guys there were frum but much more lenient in things I found important (like being shomer). It was a big let down... I think I prefer the shadchan scene...
Posted 10 months ago # -
There are about 16 threads about looks in shidduchim [Just in the titles; i don't know how many are mentioned in the threads].
I haven't counted, but there are about 788 threads on qualities to look for, what to look for, what not to look for, what to notice and what not to notice, what is a RED FLAG and what is not, how to see this, how to see that...
More threads: Dating etiquette, what to do on a date, what do you do when he... what do you do when she... what to eat, what to drink how to go home, how to carry on...
Should i stop... should i go for a second date. I like her. I don't like her. What should i do? I'm not sure...
There are better boys than girls. There are better girls than boys. Older guys... older girls... which is worse... Older guys marrying younger girls... older girls marrying younger guys...
Marrying a gerrer... marrying a ger... marrying a BT... dating a modern guy... coloured shirts... jeans... ashkenzi v sephardi... sephardi vs. ashkenazi....
Funny stories... inspirational stories... worst date ever... proposal stories... best date ever... more stories...
shadchan... no shadchan... heimish/chassidish shadchan... knowing both parties... amateur shadchanim... suggesting your own shidduch
parents control... parents don't get involved... mothers caring about looks... mothers of the girl... mothers of the boy...
is he going to go into learning... short term... long term... working... what does he want to work as... shonoh rishona...
compromise... make do with the best there is... don't let yourselves be cheated... don't sell yourselves cheap... dream date... nobody is the same...
HOW MUCH REPETITION CAN ONE ***************** TOPIC HOLD???
[************** standing for TROLL]
Posted 10 months ago # -
Ayyo, it looks like
I have worn out my welcome
I will kindly leave
this thread
as my shrine to those
who would simply
like to ask a question
to the opposite gender
without being judged.
I hope everybody had
as much lulz
as I did.
( '-'): Good Bye.
Posted 10 months ago # -
Zabachur -- tall girls should NEVER slouch, but rather should wear their height proudly and elegantly. Slouching doesn't make them look shorter, merely sloppier. Flatter shoes are fine, but never be ashamed of your height, tall OR short!
Posted 10 months ago # -
Thank you,
Brony,
for your poetic
addition to this site
and for your careful
more slang-filled
sarcasm,
which made me
laugh a
lot.
Goodbye!!!
Posted 10 months ago # -
oomis...i was completely joking...i happen to really like tall girls...definitely not taller than me but thats hard to find anyways
Posted 10 months ago # -
Men: Why don't you like curly hair? (& by curly I mean nice ringlets, not a frizzy mess)
Posted 9 months ago # -
Some men love it! Mine loves my curls, unlike my mom who always wished I would straighten it.
Posted 9 months ago # -
interjection: Ugh I wish! Aren't curls supposed to be wild, attractive....you catch my drift..?
Posted 9 months ago # -
You agree they're attractive. What's the question?
Posted 9 months ago # -
Wow this post is AWESOME...
1. I have no problem with colored shirts but I do think it is nice when guys wear white shirts on shabbos and holidays
(Wearing respectable clothing shows that a guy has self respect)2. Cologne: I have had so many times when a guy was wearing so much cologne he nearly made birds fall out of trees the smell was so overpowering....just ugh
On the other hand some guys surprisingly smell great
My favorite smells on guys would be:
Really clean smelling like some good soap :)
Sweet smelling cologne that is soft and light
AXE in all scents but mostly dark temptation
Or just sweet with a hint of mint3. heels/earrings
Heels look good on shabbos or special occasions but for every day they just make the girl look like she is trying too hardEarrings rock DEAL WITH IT
4. Wanta pet peeve TOO MUCH BLOODY MAKE UP
It makes girls look like they are covering their face with glop
A nice small amount of blush mascara and Concealer does wonders5. Bad breath/great guy if it is a rare occasion what of it
If it is like that on a consistent basis, well...6. brony : lovely girl rating method
I didn't see personality anywhere on it pray tell would you date a girl who looked like a model but had like the meanest stupidest weirdest personalityAND
Uggs can look cool if you pair them up with the right clothingPosted 9 months ago # -
p.s dont give up the thread : its way cool
and guys what are your thoughts on justin bieber,
to me he seems just stupid
Posted 9 months ago # -
p.s dont give up the thread : its way cool
and guys what are your thoughts on justin bieber,
to me he seems just stupid
+1
Posted 9 months ago # -
"You agree they're attractive. What's the question?"
As a woman, I do!
The guys...not so much (So I've been told)
The question is: WHY?
Posted 9 months ago # -
hmm the mysteries of the universe shall not be revealed
Posted 9 months ago # -
So I asked a guy, he said it's bec it evokes a "big image" as opposed to that sleek look....
How does that make sense?
Posted 9 months ago # -
It's a matter of preference for guys just as it is for girls. I know many guys who prefer curly hair.
Posted 9 months ago #
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