September 11, 2017 12:51 pm at 12:51 pm #1360564
If you share a babysitter with someone else, and one of the kids is sick on a particular day (to the extent that you would not want the kids to be near each other), how do you decide who gets the babysitter that day?September 11, 2017 1:05 pm at 1:05 pm #1360608
You follow the ways of Shlomo. Someone offers to cut the babysitter in half and each mother gets half of her. Whoever accepts first doesn’t get any babysitter.September 11, 2017 2:24 pm at 2:24 pm #1361076
I would say, all else being equal, that the healty child gets the babysitter, but the specifics should be worked out when the arrangements are first made.
Is all else equal, or are there other factors which may favor one over the other?September 11, 2017 2:44 pm at 2:44 pm #1361097
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You put the kids in two different bedrooms and have the babysitter go back and forth.September 11, 2017 3:16 pm at 3:16 pm #1361142
My answer would probably be about how heartbreaking it is to think of a sick kid being home with a babysitter instead of a family member which nobody wants to hear so I’ll refrain from commenting.
🤒😢👶🏻💔September 11, 2017 4:08 pm at 4:08 pm #1361224
Yes, Syag I was thinking the same, but acknowledge that for some families that could be very difficult to impossible to do.
Another point in favor of the healthy baby- why should the babysitter get sick? Or catch something that she could pass on to her family/little kids, as the case may be?September 12, 2017 6:14 am at 6:14 am #1361526
Please state how they “share the babysitter”? Do you bring the children to the baby sitter? Is it a daily arrangement based on hours? Too little information to even offer a response.September 12, 2017 8:52 am at 8:52 am #1361560
Sorry, I was gonna give more details but I wasn’t sure which details people would consider to be relevant, and also I just didn’t feel like writing it all out.
The arrangement is that we bring our kids to the other person’s house and the babysitter watches all the kids there. We each pay based on the number of hours that our kids are there, but it’s pretty much a fixed amount per week.
I should point out that although the babysitter generally watches the kids at the other people’s house, there’s no reason she can’t watch our kids at at our house on any particular day.September 12, 2017 3:05 pm at 3:05 pm #1362137
Meno: Sit down with the other parents and discuss it. There is no simple answer.September 12, 2017 3:29 pm at 3:29 pm #1362291
Thanks, that’s what we did.
We were actually standing, and it was over the phone, but the idea is the same.September 13, 2017 3:07 pm at 3:07 pm #1363035
Syag, dad is kolel, mom works. What exactly are they supposed to do? Kids get sick and she can’t keep staying homeSeptember 13, 2017 3:17 pm at 3:17 pm #1363039
True, I mean it’s just a kid. So what if they feel abandoned every now and then. They’ll get over it.September 13, 2017 3:24 pm at 3:24 pm #1363044
True, I mean it’s just a kid. So what if they feel abandoned every now and then. They’ll get over it.
Now you’re getting it.September 13, 2017 5:01 pm at 5:01 pm #1363077
“Now you’re getting it.”
Yeah, but the kids aren’t. but whatever.September 13, 2017 9:58 pm at 9:58 pm #1363244
Stop making working for a living to support one’s children sound like a crime.September 13, 2017 10:10 pm at 10:10 pm #1363263
Not that it’s your place to bully people for expressing their beliefs but I would counter with – Stop making abandoning your kids to a third party sound like it’s a healthy option.September 13, 2017 10:15 pm at 10:15 pm #1363272
Not that it’s your place to bully people for expressing their beliefs…
Oh puhleeeaseSeptember 13, 2017 10:23 pm at 10:23 pm #1363278
There is a huge difference between disagreeing with someones beliefs and bullying them for expressing themselves.
If you disagree, feel free to say so, instead of telling me I’m not allowed to disagree.September 13, 2017 10:40 pm at 10:40 pm #1363285
Meno – you don’t like my feelings on babysitting any more than I like yours. And I am welcome to say so, as are you. But I don’t bully you for saying so or doing so. And I don’t go around trolling threads to bring out the worst in people.September 13, 2017 10:40 pm at 10:40 pm #1363287
You’re bullying me for my methods of disagreeing.September 13, 2017 10:52 pm at 10:52 pm #1363301
Actually I’m not, which I know you know. So sorry.September 14, 2017 2:04 am at 2:04 am #1363312
Thanks, that’s what we did.
Sure, leave us in suspense as to what the resolution was.September 14, 2017 2:09 am at 2:09 am #1363321
I would think that one of the issues here might be that different people have different ideas of what is considered “too sick to be around other kids”.
If the parents of the sick kid think he’s too sick to go to the babysitter, then I would think that they should be the ones who don’t get the babysitter. But if they thought it made sense to send him and the other parents didn’t, then it’s more complicated and I think you need to ask a sheilah. Maybe you should do that in any case.
I agree with DY that it’s best to work these things out beforehand, but that doesn’t help you now. Also, it’s hard to work it out beforehand since different people have different ideas of what is considered “too sick to be around other kids”.September 14, 2017 2:11 am at 2:11 am #1363323
Syag, I know otherwise. My imperative sentence was simply my way of phrasing my disagreement, and your statement was a way of disparaging me and my way of communicating.September 14, 2017 3:19 pm at 3:19 pm #1363859
In previous generations there were no babysitters. The child would be left completely alone.
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