What should a person do if anything they would say would be wrong, but they have to say something?
They, (he, she or RebYidd23) should start a topic in coffee room about it!!!
Say the wrong thing. After enough practice, they’ll say the right thing.
But there are no practice runs. For saying a particularly wrong thing, or for saying nothing, you can get labeled as insensitive and rude forever, even if you said it accidentally because you are a creature of extreme awkwardness.
Sometimes you can just smile broadly and shrug your shoulders. It’s not optimal but can be better than the alternative.
(Also, practice small talk in the shower)
The rules of small talk are confusing.
Guessing that you’re being vague for a reason…
Knowing the context/situation would help me know how to best respond to your question RebYidd23…
That’s because I’m referring to all situations that meet the criteria.
If it’s sholom bayis related, humor helps alot!
Even plain small talk with people you don’t know very well can go devastatingly wrong. For example, if you ask them what they do for a living, it might be very painful for them to hear if they recently lost their job.
Sometimes saying the wrong thing is the right thing, because since Hashem put you there to be you, maybe what you said was what he needed you to say.