"So when men want something which G-d made important to them, that is self centeredness."
G-d made it important to us so we would appreciate it. That does NOT mean we need it. I appreciate Ferraris. I don't need one.
"But when women want something which G-d made important to them"
This is part of their nature, and they NEED it to have self esteem. The same way men need, and are entitled, to feel respect, which boosts our self esteem.
"So, if I insist on only marrying a girl whose father will buy me a corvette, that is self esteem. But if I insist on only marrying a girl who will cook for shabbos, that is self centeredness."
Both are self centeredness, because in both, the person is insisting on things from other people that only enhance his own pleasure. If you need to raise your self esteem through a Corvette, you can buy it yourself. You can't demand it from others.
And I don't care enough to fight at all, actually. I realize you probably won't ever agree with my viewpoint, and that doesn't concern me at all. And if you think I'm completely wrong, wonderful. Everyone is entitled to their own views. I don't feel the need, nor do I see the benefit, for me to reply to this discussion any more.