If a couple divorced, does that necessarily demonstrate that they lacked shalom bayis?
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Does a Divorce indicate a Family lacked Shalom Bayis?
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Posted 5 months ago #
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Usually; but I can think of exceptions based on halachic considerations.
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Nah, sometimes it's just that they were hypnotized accidentally while watching a magic show, and had their memories switched, so that they think they didn't have shalom bayis, but really they did.
That's why any competent rav would ask if they have been to a magic show lately before granting a divorce.
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Yeah, that too.
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DaasYochid: Those halachicly required divorces you are referring to are generally speaking, too, an indication of a lack of sholom bayis.
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DaasYochid: Those halachicly required divorces you are referring to are generally speaking, too, an indication of a lack of sholom bayis.
Not where he's a kohen.
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Nah!!! Of course it's not an indication of lack of Shalom Bayis! Don't all healthy couples who love each other get divorced???
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the way you posed the original question is a misnomer. its like asking is it always true that one who sits in the dark has no light in his room. but if you mean can two people who loved and may still love each other get divorced, i think most will agree, yes. (but love is only one part of sholom bayis.)
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Popa, correct. Or if they are childless after ten years, although for some reason, that's usually not kept (I think Rivash addresses this).
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Kohanim is usually not kept either. The Kohen usually says he "doesn't believe it", and even if it is true he can stay married.
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Or a soldier who dies and they wrote a get to work lemafraiya.
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(or if he's mia)
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Or a goses w/o kids gives a get if brother wouldn't give chalitza to the widow.
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no they lacked carrots.
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yeah, or maybe she just double-dared him to
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Does starvation indicate a lack of food?
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The Gemora and Shulchan Aruch talks about divorcing a wife for burning dinner or even finding a prettier wife, examples that may be non shalom Bahia issues.
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Naysberg -"If a couple divorced, does that necessarily demonstrate that they lacked shalom bayis?"
In my case there wasn't so much Sholom Bayis and I'm divorced, but the honest truth is I know couples much worse than I was with Sholom Bayis and are still married.
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What is the purpose of the Talmud allowing divorce over burnt food? Do the rabbis really want so many divorces and such pressure put on women?
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