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1. Safta
   Member

   Which finger and hand should the engagement ring be worn?

   Posted 11 months ago #

2. yitayningwut
   I have no idea wut this screen name means. Do YOU know what this screen name means?

   You're a safta and you don't know the answer to that question yet? Yoish.

   Posted 11 months ago #

3. mom12
   Member

   left hand- ring finger- the one near the pinky.
   even if I wear on the right, cuz its more comfortable..

   Posted 11 months ago #

4. Nechomah
   Member

   Most women wear their wedding band (usually together with their engagement ring) on the ring finger of the left hand. Until the chassanah, the engagement ring is usually worn on that finger by itself. Once married, some women don't feel comfortable with two rings on the same finger, so they put the engagement ring on a different finger (usually on the ring finger of the right hand), but that is mostly preference. I have a friend who did not have an engagement ring but wore her wedding band on the second finger of her right hand (the finger where the chassan puts it on her during the chuppah). I think it is more a matter of comfort - if the band of each ring is wide it can take up so much place on the finger and not look so nice. Better to take the kallah to some jewelry stores and have her try on a few different styles before deciding on what to get.

   Posted 11 months ago #

5. JustHavingFun
   Real Cool!

   Left hand 3rd finger is American way. When wearing both wedding band and engagement ring on same finger, the wedding band is placed closer to the palm, i.e., closer to the heart. Russians wear wedding band on right hand 3rd finger.

   @Nechoma - emthe second finger of her right hand (the finger where the chassan puts it on her during the chuppah)em

   The finger the chosson puts the wedding band is the index finger (pointer) on the right hand in all the cases I know about. Then the kallah transfers it to her 3rd finger left hand at some point.

   Posted 11 months ago #

6. Nechomah
   Member

   JHF - Yes, the pointer finger is the second finger, the counting begins with the thumb.

   Posted 11 months ago #

7. oomis
   Member

   At engagement, left hand finger next to the pinkie. After the wedding, it can be worn there together with the wedding ring, or transferred to the other hand, fourth finger.

   Posted 11 months ago #

8. mutche
   Member

   why not ask the chassan for 10 rings, one for each finger?

   Posted 11 months ago #

9. Nechomah
   Member

   Just to clarify my previous comment - the thumb is the first finger and then you continue counting with the index finger, so the "ring finger" is the fourth finger on the hand.

   Posted 11 months ago #

10. oomis
    Member

    Yes, Nechomah, the fourth finger is the one next to the pinkie. Is the thumb not a finger also?

    Posted 11 months ago #

11. Nechomah
    Member

    Oomis, definitely the thumb is a finger. I was just clarifying because JHF was indicating that the ring finger is the third finger, but it's not. I don't know if my post was confusing, so I figured I'd just clarify it.

    Posted 11 months ago #

12. oomis
    Member

    Oops, didn't mean to make you think I was questioning you. I wasn't.

    Posted 11 months ago #

13. Syag Lchochma
    Tell it to me, and I will tell you if it's Loshon Hara :)

    My mom wore her wedding band exactly where my dad had put it, on her index finger, until the day she died.

    Incidently, she wore HER mothers wedding band on her ring finger. When my mother died, my sister put them both on a chain and wore them around her neck. She handed them to me for safe keeping when they wheeled her to surgery and I put them around my neck, which is where they remain.

    Posted 11 months ago #

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