For Young Couples

So is this advice for young couples, or couples generally?

I’m trying to figure out if there is a relationship between the first and second sentences of the OP

Threw me off too.

The Mesilas Yesharim also states “the obvious”. But as the author mentions in the introduction, sometimes it is necessary to restate the obvious over and over.

I am also wondering what the first sentence has to do with the rest of the OP.

I have another kashya. The OP only says “Baruch Hashem” about those who find their bashert very quickly and start a family. If anything, though, someone who waited and were then able to start a family would feel more grateful, and shout “Baruch Hashem” with every fiber of their being!

So, my sweetest friends, I will share with you that I think the OP is saying something deep – very, very deep.

We know in Chassidus it says that ugly people have more yiras shomayim. Of course the lamed vov tzaddikim, who know the secret of being real, see people with yiras shomayim as exquisitely beautiful, but as for the rest of us, who ate a big breakfast in the Rennaisance (or at least have a big breakfast waiting for us), they’re hideous.

So I think what the holy OP is telling us is that people who lack yiras shomayim, who tend to get married right away, can still have a good marriage if they learn to always say Baruch Hashem.

And the chiddush of the seifa (give me harmony, hold on the last note) is that even the holy, holy people with such awesome yiras shomayim that it takes them a bit longer to get married, also need tips from the OP to keep their marriage strong.

Thanks for the advice.

Tonight, I communicated: Why haven’t you taken out the garbage?

Then I appreciated: I really appreciate that you took out the garbage last week

We had to spend time together in order for me to tell him this.

Daas, thanks. I completely missed that message.

HaLeiVi – I’m surprised. It seemed pretty obvious to me.

Tonight I communicated that I appreciate the fact that we don’t spend time with each other.

Two out of three is pretty good, I think.

(She didn’t think so, though. I’m not sure why.)

Seriously, though, good advice from the OP.

If the couple love each other they will always love each other

Rema was that a serious post? if so i have to say i cant disagree more people change sometimes for the better sometimes for the worse and if for the worse than obviously the esteem from their spouse would wane.

Love and respect are two different things perhaps the love will always be there in some form but once the respect is gone the love will wane.

If a person once they get married changes their personality or hid their real personality during the dating process and they start to act as a totally different person do you really think that the spouse should love a person who deceived them so?

yes what rema?

But even if people do love each other, there’s no guarantee that they won’t hate each other at the same time.

Lior love always over comes hate evey time

profound101 u got life?