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1. Menora
   Member

   What suggestions can you offer to have, and keep, a lichtege and freiliche mishpacha?

   Posted 5 months ago #

2. musser zoger
   Member

   Learn in bais midrash and stay out of the house as much as possible:)

   Posted 5 months ago #

3. skiaddict
   Member

   What a funny question!

   Posted 5 months ago #

4. amichai
   Member

   tefilla, simchas hachayim, samaech bchelko, enjoying your family, and spending time together.

   Posted 5 months ago #

5. Jothar
   F.M.C.R.S. and occasional creator of chaos.

   Be the example to your kids. Always smile at the, hug them, and leave work issues at the door. Tell your kids how much you love them and they love each other. They will buy it. Kids are naturally happy.
   Swiped from yated.com:
   Rav Chaim Brim zt”l once recounted how the Brisker Rov zt”l was walking with some of his talmidim when they passed a group of children at play. The Brisker Rov stopped and asked those around him why they thought children are generally happy and laugh easily.

   A few of the men walking with the Rov ventured to give voice to their thoughts. Perhaps it is because children lack a maturity which brings with it a more solemn outlook on life, one suggested. Perhaps it is because they have few responsibilities, proposed another.

   The Rov shook his head, indicating his disagreement with these suggestions. Realizing that the Rov wanted to teach them something, the talmidim stopped and waited to see what he would say. Why, indeed, are children normally in a happy and carefree state of mind?

   The answer, explained the Rov, is that children are happy because human beings arenaturally this way! If people would be born with all sorts of the varying temperaments we witness in adults - such as being stressed, worried, pessimistic, dispirited or melancholy - then we would witness these emotions in children in a similar measure that we do in adults. The fact that normal children from stable homes are overwhelmingly happy and carefree indicates that this is a person’s natural state.

   As we grow older, the Brisker Rov explained, we complicate matters. We erect mechitzos, barriers, and we bury our natural state under layers of self-imposed encumbrances (such as jealousy, desire, greed and doubt). Children, who have not yet complicated their lives with external baggage, are in their natural, purer state.

   Posted 5 months ago #

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