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  • Started 1 year ago by farrocks
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  1. farrocks
    Joseph

    Anyone here with experience being a stay-at-home-dad?

    Posted 1 year ago #
  2. 2scents
    Mint and Raspberry

    Elaborate, you mean to say washing laundry, cooking and claening up?

    This sounds like a nightmare!

    Posted 1 year ago #
  3. more_2
    Member

    Oy Gevald!!!! This is not a mans job!

    Posted 1 year ago #
  4. Logician
    Member

    Stay at home dads: why do you celebrate Pesach ? ;-)

    Posted 1 year ago #
  5. WolfishMusings
    The Wolf

    Elaborate, you mean to say washing laundry, cooking and claening up?

    I do all those things and I'm not a house-husband.

    The Wolf

    Posted 1 year ago #
  6. more_2
    Member

    I suggest you hire your wife, and give her a good annual salary;)

    Posted 1 year ago #
  7. Loyal Jew
    Blocked

    Another modern deviation. Assur.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  8. OneOfMany
    The Impressively Arbitrary Nymphadora the Purple ^_^

    Another reincarnation. Joseph.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  9. more_2
    Member

    OneOfMany
    Wun Uv Meny
    Another reincarnation. Joseph.

    POSTED 3 HOURS AGO #
    Who? The op?

    Posted 1 year ago #
  10. 2scents
    Mint and Raspberry

    Tittle looks like the discussion is about a husbands that's the size of a house.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  11. yitayningwut
    I have no idea wut this screen name means. Do YOU know what this screen name means?

    Postal too, dachtzich.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  12. OneOfMany
    The Impressively Arbitrary Nymphadora the Purple ^_^

    more_2: No, this guy. http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/mo-wanna-bes#post-363248 I think that just went over everyone's heads, because I cannot believe nobody had any comment...

    yitayningwut: What does dachtzich mean?

    Posted 1 year ago #
  13. yitayningwut
    I have no idea wut this screen name means. Do YOU know what this screen name means?

    OneOfMany - It means methinks. It's something to which an apt response might be, "takeh?" or, "yitayningwut?"

    Posted 1 year ago #
  14. WolfishMusings
    The Wolf

    Another modern deviation. Assur.

    It's assur for me to clean, cook or do laundry?

    Oh well... just another sign of the disgusting, horrible excuse for a human being that I have become.

    The Wolf

    Posted 1 year ago #
  15. OneOfMany
    The Impressively Arbitrary Nymphadora the Purple ^_^

    Takah...lol. I guess it's best to just ignore them...

    Posted 1 year ago #
  16. GoLearnTorah
    Member

    But it's ok for frum women to work in male professions outside the home.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  17. more
    Member

    GoLearnTorah
    Member

    "But it's ok for frum women to work in male professions outside the home."

    LOL!!!

    Posted 1 year ago #
  18. Loyal Jew
    Blocked

    Wolf, wolf .... Of course none of those things are assur for a husband to do. They can even be chessed. But the situation described is one of reversing roles. These roles have proved themselves in turning out good yidden and are sometimes required by halacha.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  19. If it talks about a -husband in hard situations, for instance, then the wife should be helping him out and support him until he's getting out from his situation, and then would be able to start going out, do what he have to do.

    That's the right thing to do in the perspective of the T'orah

    Posted 1 year ago #
  20. avhaben
    Joseph

    Is there anything wrong of the husband is a stay-at-home-dad / homemaker while the wife is the working breadwinner?

    Posted 1 year ago #
  21. Syag Lchochma
    Tell it to me, and I will tell you if it's Loshon Hara :)

    Thats how it has been for a few years in my house.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  22. avhaben
    Joseph

    Your husband decided he prefers being a stay-at-home-dad to working outside?

    Posted 1 year ago #
  23. Syag Lchochma
    Tell it to me, and I will tell you if it's Loshon Hara :)

    avhaben - I was offered a comparable salary working only 10 months a year. When we thought I wasn't gonna be having kids anymore, until the time our youngest goes to school, we switched places. He did say it is harder to stay home, but much more enjoyable (and he doesn't have to wear a tie).

    Posted 1 year ago #
  24. writersoul
    postersheart

    If all of a couple's belongings belong to the husband in halacha because he is the breadwinner, does that mean that if the wife is the breadwinner it all belongs to her?

    Posted 1 year ago #
  25. derszoger
    Joseph

    writersoul: No. (The reason of the halacha is not because he is the breadwinner.) Her paycheck still belongs to him.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  26. WolfishMusings
    The Wolf

    writersoul: No. (The reason of the halacha is not because he is the breadwinner.) Her paycheck still belongs to him.

    Technically true. But she's also free to say "I'll pay for my own upkeep and keep my earnings." If she's the sole earner in the family, it then makes perfect sense (from a strictly financial standpoint) to do so.

    The Wolf

    Posted 1 year ago #
  27. takahmamash
    Member

    . . . and he doesn't have to wear a tie.

    If he doesn't want to wear a tie, make aliyah. I haven't worn a tie in over 5 years.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  28. Syag Lchochma
    Tell it to me, and I will tell you if it's Loshon Hara :)

    Working on it . . .

    Posted 1 year ago #
  29. writersoul
    postersheart

    I don't know, I remember reading in a halacha article that it belongs to the man because he is the traditional breadwinner.If there is a source to the contrary, by all means please post it. I'm curious.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  30. Patri
    Joseph

    writer - The reason it is all his is because the husband is legally responsible to support his wife. See Rambam.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  31. on the ball
    Member

    Wolf - are you sure that is her choice to make?

    Maybe only the husband can be waived of his obligation to support her if she can support herself. (Gittin Daf Yud) But that she can demand that independence? Where's your source?

    Posted 1 year ago #
  32. writersoul
    postersheart

    But if she's supporting HIM, why does he have monetary control?

    Posted 1 year ago #
  33. derszoger
    Joseph

    Because the legal obligation to support her rests with him, regardless of whatever alternative arrangements or reality exists.

    Posted 1 year ago #
  34. writersoul
    postersheart

    So then he should.

    Posted 1 year ago #

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