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1. Busy As A Bee
   Member

   I recently ended a Shidduch with someone I really liked. I ended it for logical reasons as opposed to emotional ones. However now I can't get him out of my head. I know it will happen with time and all but I need advice how to quicken the process cuz it's so frustrating!
   And don't just say to keep busy cuz I work basically 12 hour days between work and college and internship so I can't be any busier then I am ATM (at the moment).
   Ideas smart people of the coffee room???
   Please??

   Posted 6 months ago #

2. bpt
   never caustic

   Date (and eventualy, marry) someone else. That will make the prior person a non-entity.

   Posted 6 months ago #

3. mos yumos
   Member

   "smart people of the coffee room???"
   Says who?

   Posted 6 months ago #

4. miritchka
   Member

   time heals...happened to me and it takes time, or your bashert, to erase it.

   Posted 6 months ago #

5. BTGuy
   Member

   I wish there were an easy fix to suggest to you. Matters like this are not strictly based on logic, which was the basis of your action. Logically, you wanted to end it. Emotionally, it is not over. Hmmmm. You need to speak to someone because sometimes, in time, people get out of your head, othertimes, they dont, which is one reason why we dont like to date around and do things like the others in the world. Also, IMHO, a decision based purely on logic may have some presumptive or predictive components to it. Not all logic is always so logical when it comes to human nature and emotions. I hope that helps; although I am not sure it did.

   Posted 6 months ago #

6. A Heimishe Mom
   Member

   Re-evaluate your "logic"? Discuss it with someone objective?

   Posted 6 months ago #

7. shein
   Nice As Can Be

   Did he end it or did you end it?

   Posted 6 months ago #

8. Busy As A Bee
   Member

   I did discuss it with someone objective (cuz my parents def are not! :)) and they supported my decision.

   Posted 6 months ago #

9. hockaroundtheclock
   Hock n roll!

   I don't have any ideas for a girl but if you're a guy who got dumped try going fishing. It really works.

   Posted 6 months ago #

10. bpt
    never caustic

    "I don't have any ideas for a girl "

    You're on the right track though. Instead of fishing, insert shopping.

    Fishing, huh? Exactly what were you hoping to catch?

    Posted 6 months ago #

11. Busy As A Bee
    Member

    So shopping is not exactly the most relaxing experience for me..
    Unless I actually get something that I like, then its great..
    Sorta like shidduchim...
    which brings me full circle..
    LOL

    Posted 6 months ago #

12. RABBAIM
    Member

    Daven to Hashem to help you get over it!

    Posted 6 months ago #

13. Busy As A Bee
    Member

    Thanks you all for words of wisdom.
    I like having practiclAnyone have practical advice??

    Posted 6 months ago #

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