ursketching - I am really sorry to read what you wrote.It must feel awful to be treated in that way. It is insensitive of your MIL, but I hope you do not respond in kind. YOUR HUSBAND, however, should make it very clear to his parents and sisters, that this kind of exclusionary behavior does not bode well for sholom bayis, and his relationship with them. Have you ever asked your MIL why she does this? Is there a chance that you may have unknowingly done something that put them off? How do they treat you otherwise?
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How To Address Your Mother In Law
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Posted 2 years ago #
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BS"D
I know of a judge who addresses his shviger as follows:
"Would the suspect kindly approach the bench"!
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shaatra, would you care to explain to the rest of us what 'sketching' means to you guys?
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Mrs. Beautiful - It is a slang word in the Sephardi community. It is slang and means "your joking". It is not a syrian word(meaning arabic) as Shaatra worded it. Shaatra,sometimes, you seem to want to interject that fact that you are syrian, in practically any topic. Mrs. Beautiful asked me, I felt I did not have to offer an explaination. But since your response was incorrect as describing it as exclusively as a "syrian word", I felt I had to explain it. You did not have to respond that it was a syrian word. "Sephardim" usually don't go around explaining the terms they use. BCSY. You know what I mean?? I grew up in the SEPHARDIC community and can't stand when people claim things exclusively as "Syrian" Considering the fact that the Brooklyn Sephardic community boasts people who originated from other Middle Eastern Countries, like Lebanon, Morocco, Iran, Iraq, Libya, & Egypt. I feel very offended when people say "Syrian" even though I even married to one, hence my own children are considered syrian, I prefer to refer to our family as Sephardim. All I ask is you think about what you decide to post on and not post "just because"
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Mazal- chill! Sorry ! ! !
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Shaatra - Thanks for the apology :) Tizku l'Shanim Rabot!!
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I cal my mother in law imma as does all her kids adn kids in law and my husband calls my mother mommy as all my siblings and i do
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The proper way to refer to one's Shvigger is Rebbitzin,
cuz she's ALWAYS RIGHT.Posted 2 years ago # -
But you're bound to insult her that way ;)
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The proper way to refer to one's Shvigger is Rebbitzin,
cuz she's ALWAYS RIGHT.I know you meant this humorously.... but on the serious side, I don't want any of my future sons-in-law and daughters-in-law to call me "Rabbi.*)
The Wolf
*Barring the unforeseen circumstance that I actually earn s'micha by then.
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mepal, "cuz she's always right" i mumble under my breath!
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Anywhere in the NORTH or SOUTH POLE(s) I'm flexible like that.
Although i suggested her the north, cause the weather there is more suitable for her ailments, and the travel options are better for us over there.Posted 9 months ago # -
Savta, or Mother-in-law dearest. And she knows I mean that absolutely sincerely.
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twisted - "And she knows I mean that absolutely sincerely."
There must be some sort of twist!
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Before my m-i-l moved in with us I called her Momma, and kept that up the first few weeks after she moved in. But soon it became easier all around to call her Bubby. For one thing, it taught the children to call her that; it was more comfortable for me; and as her memory diminished, it is less confusing for her to deal with me, whom she often cannot recognize as a family member, calling her by that title than by "Momma."
My husband, though, won my parents' instantaneous approval and respect by walking into their home after we got engaged and addressing them immediately as "Mom" and "Pop."Posted 9 months ago # -
Mahara"t
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remember people, what goes around comes around, be nice and they will be nice to you, it is hard to go against that, be honest, be upfront, above all be respectful, after all this is your spouses parent. Now they are are also your 'parents', so the shaila that remains I suppose, Kibud Av ve'aim? The Aseres Hadibros are quite explicit here. No room for error in judgement.That is is why it says Kabed, respect, and not start with love, they get it automatically, so which ever way you slice this one must still draw the respect conclusion or we have failed what H-shem truly wants and demands of us.
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