How to make friends in the CR?

Awwwww, OURtorah I’m so sorry you’ve been feeling left out! I’d love to become more friendly with you… I just don’t know too much about you because you don’t post too often, so it’s a bit hard. But based on the facts that- 1. You are Jewish

and 2. a thread you started a while ago about achdus

I can see that you are a very nice and spirituality growth oriented person, so I am pleased to consider you my friend.

We can all be CR friends, but by virtue of the very real wisdom of remaining anonymous here on-line, it is difficult to find a way to be friends outside of the CR. I discovered completely by accident that one of the posters here was in fact a long ago dear friend with whom I had lost touch. We reconnected because of the CR (and because of a chessed that she was extending, which is so like her), but it was all Hashgocha Protis, and certainly not typical.

For many reasons, it is better that in general, we maintain our anonymity. Discussions sometimes get heated or a little personal, and it is better that we really do not know to whom we are speaking at those times.

Welcome!!! Its harder to see posters who dont post often, I have bad memory and it only permits me to remember the members I see everyday or just stick out but post often. Ussually If I suddenly find someone I suppose they are new…turns out most are a few years old and they just dont post….

We’ll try to put you in, you have to start recognizing the faces here everyday also. Maybe its a good thing you arent fruends with us, dont get me wrong! We all want to make more friends and you seem cute, but most of the people who do have friends here are going through something tough, thats why they come here daily. If we dont see you alot and youre not venting, that should mean that you have a life unlike many of us and that (I hope) nothing major is going on in your life-count youself lucky!

Anyway you seem real cute!!!! Id be happy to be your friend!!!!!! I think I also saw your achdus thread, and it was very nice….just jump in with us and soon you’ll get everything going on!!!!

OURTorah – It would be weird to welcome you cuz you’ve been a member longer than me, but your welcome to be my friend! I can’t seem to ever have enough anyways…the more the merrier 😉

ahem! OUR torah, I am here to offer my assistance!

“For many reasons, it is better that in general, we maintain our anonymity. Discussions sometimes get heated or a little personal, and it is better that we really do not know to whom we are speaking at those times.”

I agree that maintaining anonymity is very important. However, precisely because discussions often get heated, I wish that we would all take it upon ourselves to imagine, each time we reply to an anonymous poster, that we are speaking to a friend, relative, rebbe, or someone we know personally. Maybe that would help to dissipate some of the vitriol that shows up here all too often.

shopping 613. Nope! still looking. I’m going in Aug next yr I”H

ive stayed on in isreal– anyone could .. these days its more common for girls to stay without family

he/she means they want2 be included in the back and forth between users

“no facebook….bad for the neshama!!!”

There are Facebook groups for divrei Torah, for cholim, for tzedakah, for countless community initiatives. Used appropriately, Facebook can be very good for the neshama.

JewishFeminist – you are quite right. We should all strive to remember that Derech Eretz Kadma L’Torah, and the best way to make ourselves heard, is to speak with Derech Eretz, even when we disagree with someone’s opinion. Imagining that the person to whom we are responding might be our Rov, rebbie, best friend, parent, sibling, is a good way to approach this.

How to make friends in the CR:

Be opinionated, unreasonable, condescending, snarky, insulting and hostile. Works for me.

I will miss you Good LUCK!