This may be a tough one with an audience like YWN, but I need some advice and I don't want to vent about this to people who know me and my family. I am not working right now, I am currently staying home with me new-ish baby and my husband works full time. BH he has a job and works very very hard, but the way the economy is and the fact that I am not working, money is very strained. We have never taken or asked for money from our parents. We were not supported at all ( our parents are very modern and believe that you shouldn't get married If you cannot fully support yourself) I happen to agree with that but I don't see anything wrong with helping out if your children needs it and if you can afford it. My parents don't have that much money but bH wish they could help. My in-laws on the other hand... Make 3 or 4 times what my parents make. I know that it is their money, and they definitely don't need to help us, but it would be nice. They help my husbands other un-married brother and sisters, but never us. They also know that we are really struggling right now to pay our bills but still they don't offer. My husband does not like to talk about it but even as I am writing this I am brought to tears. Please don't misunderstand and think that I am greedy. We have never asked for a thing in 3 years. I really want to be home with my child but I entertained the idea of going back to work, but with a nanny it just doesn't even pay to do that. We are ok but I just wish they would offer since they have so much money and are not shy about that fact.
What I am really asking for here is help. Help to not hold a grudge against them. Help to not want to scream when I see the things that they buy for my siblings in law. Help not getting angry everytime my mother who has very little money brings groceries and presents for my child when she visits, and they don't. I love my husband and he works so hard, he has also taken on the burden of my student lines along with everything else. Thanks for letting me vent.