NEED URGENT ADVICE

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    trak443
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    i have a son in high school (who struggles academically) who is not happy to the point where he is barely functioning as a person never mind as a student or part of a school.

    he says he wants something not as strict (i.e. no white shirt required) and he needs a VERY patient and understanding hanhala. I’m willing to consider ANYTHING in the USA..

    any suggestions?

    #988275
    HaLeiVi
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    So he struggles with white shirts, too?

    #988276
    DaMoshe
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    I’d suggest Darchei Torah in Far Rockaway. They do require a white shirt, but the Hanhala is extremely patient, and they work with every student to bring out their full potential. R’ Bender is second to none!

    #988277
    trak443
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    Thank you HaLeivi for your sensitivty and understanding.

    does anyone have info on Richmond, VA, or Rochester, NY?

    #988278
    Trust 789
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    trak443: I don’t have a suggestion for a school to send him to, however, I would suggest that you give him something outside of school that he can enjoy. Perhaps lessons to learn an instrument. Or learn karate. Or anything that is kosher and will give him pleasure.

    See what you can do to get him functioning as a person.

    #988279
    zahavasdad
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    I dont think its the white shirt itself, its more individuality, He wants to be able to choose his own clothes

    #988280
    PBT
    Member

    Get him into a Chofetz Chaim yeshiva, such as Missouri Torah Institute in St. Louis, where my son goes. They literally saved his Yiddishkeit, and every official photo with him in it shows him in some type of varied color shirt. He’s made some lasting friendships there with his Roshei Yeshiva, his rebbeim, and his fellow classmates.

    #988281
    🍫Syag Lchochma
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    I second PBT. I also would look into a small place in/near lakewood that services boys like yours but I will have to remember the name first. Work hard to find a place that wants students who are academically weak, not spiritually weak. Unfortunately most places for the weak student have many boys who are not doing well spiritually at all. The one’s mentioned above do make the distinction in their acceptance process.

    #988282

    Try Waterbury or Chafetz Chaim (any branch)- you’ll find warmth adn patience. Good luck!

    #988283
    imamom
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    Fasman Yeshiva High School, Skokie, suburb of Chicago. Small school, WARM and understanding, very savvy hanhala. Diverse student body. Extracurriculars….and lots more.

    #988285
    winny1
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    Try TIUNY the Chofetz Chaim branch in Rochester. Had great experiance with son and Rabbi Davidowitz is easy on the boys as long as they behave properly.

    #988286
    🍫Syag Lchochma
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    Skokie doesn’t really like to take kids who are struggling and they are cautious when it is someone from the yeshiva, as opposed to Day School, system.

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