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  • #619349
    BigGolem
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    I’m seeking to give car rides to whoever needs in/around nyc as a chesed. Have car will drive. I contacted a tzedakah who coordinates exactly this, but I was refused. I’m not yet married and therefore unreliable and untrustworthy to them. Was quite insulting. Any ideas?

    #1219536
    rebshidduch
    Participant

    Just offer rides to people, do not be insulted.

    #1219537
    yungermanS
    Participant

    rebshidduch

    he doesnt have a car

    #1219538
    rebshidduch
    Participant

    yungerman, I thought he said he does have a car?

    #1219539
    Lightbrite
    Participant

    He has a car: “Have car will drive” (OP)

    #1219540

    dont take it personally since they have no idea who you are and couldnt possibly mean that they have reason to believe that you’re a bad boy but they probably just think its suspicous since they haven’t heard from many other boys as nice as you and they dont view it as a normal thing

    #1219541
    yungermanS
    Participant

    sorry my mistake. translated it wrong as YOU have car I will drive

    #1219543
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Maybe let your friends and aquaintances know that you are available. I’m sure you will get lots of calls. And then more people will hear about you and call you.

    Do you know or know of any elderly people in your neighborhood? I’m sure they can use this service. Does anyone you know have elderly relatives or acquaintances?

    Maybe you should post/check postings on some of the Frum email lists.

    #1219544
    BigGolem
    Participant

    I’m not as well connected as you seem to imagine. Wanted to work through a tzedakah that does this so I’ll just get the requests and drive. You’d think they’d accept an offer from someone able and willing. They didn’t even bother to call the reference I gave. All because I’m single.

    #1219545
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    There’s a lot of prejudice against singles in this world.

    In this case, though, it could be that there is a good reason for the policy. But it is still annoying and frustrating for you.

    #1219546
    WinnieThePooh
    Participant

    I don’t know who you called, but try tomchei shabbos- they use volunteers to drive around the deliveries, or bikur cholim organizations- maybe they know of people who need rides to the hospital or medical appointments. Ask the rav of your shul if there are eldery people who might need a ride to shul or shiur. Go in person to these organizations so they can meet you and evaluate whether they can trust you. Single people can do lots of chesed!

    #1219547
    Lightbrite
    Participant

    What about posting a free classified ad for your car services?

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/classifieds/

    #1219548
    lesschumras
    Participant

    LU, if the OP called and offered to to donate $100,000, the the tzedakah would sing a different tune

    #1219549
    Lightbrite
    Participant

    OP just offer 100 grand then

    #1219551
    BigGolem
    Participant

    “OP just offer 100 grand then”

    If 100 grand is the price for respect, think i’d keep it.

    #1219552
    BigGolem
    Participant

    tomchei shabbos only delivers on thursday, i can’t do thursday. And I want to drive people, not food.

    Called those other organizations, no takers. I’m not going to beg someone to let me help them.

    #1219553
    WinnieThePooh
    Participant

    so one option left- Maybe skip the organizations, and just speak to rabbanim of local shuls- surely they will know about people in their own communities who need rides, but are not in contact with organizations to help them.

    Sometimes Chesed can be even greater when done privately and not thru an organization where everyone knows that you are doing it.

    #1219554
    Lightbrite
    Participant

    Just make sure that you’re not asked to give rides to people or things across the US borders. I don’t want to read about you in YWN, G-d forbid.

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