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have any random questions about absolutly nothing that u dont know who to ask or dont want to ask anyone bec you will feel stupid not knowing? post them here.....
YES, in fact!
What does "dont have internet" mean?
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Yeah... Lots of em...
What was the dead sea like before it got ill?
How does a Nun retire? Does she instantly not believe at sixty-five,
and start partying?Do hummingbirds hum because they don’t know the words?
If we have nightmares, what do horses have?
If you are open-minded, would your brains fall out?
Where are preparations A to G?
Why is it hard to understand how a cemetery can raise its burial charges
and blame it on the cost of living?Why are carrots more orange than oranges?
Why didn't Noah swat those two mosquitos?
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I'm not sure if this question would go under this category but one thing is for sure: I feel absolutely stupid and embarrassed asking anyone I know.... as obviously, something must be wrong with me (and of course, my entire family as well) for having such a problem in the first place.
The truth is, despite my embarrassment I have asked several Rabbonim .... but haven't yet gotten an answer. My son (age 17) sits at home day after day for LACK OF A YESHIVA TO GO TO!!!! Maybe somebody out there can give me some suggestions.
We are looking for a combination litvish/chassidish yeshiva. More on the litvish side... but with chassidish levush (even if it's the minority... he shouldn't be different from everyone) and preferably Yiddish speaking.
Unfortunately he is only a "B" student. Too weak for Novominsk (Boro Park) or Me'or Yitzchok (Monsey) or Tal Torah (Flatbush). Yeshivas seem to be geared to either top "A" students, or, lehefech... kids that need to be saved from the streets. But there doesn't seem to be anything for the good kids who are caught in the middle.
He is a GOOD boy. Not a troublemaker at all. In the entire tri-state area... we haven't found even ONE yeshiva. We've also looked in Israel. Slabodka and Amalah shel Torah (Beit Shemesh) are too high a level. The Mir is so big that he'd probably get lost there. But we really do prefer to keep him in the States. Preferably a small, warm heimishe place.
Any suggestions???
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Queen: What about Veretzky (Flatbush) or Ch'san Sofer (Boro Park)?
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Joseph:
Veretzky might be a possibility. I'll look into it. I've heard that Ch'san Sofer is on too high a level. But maybe not. I'll look into that again, as well.
Yashar Koach!!!!! Bli neder... I'll keep you posted as to the outcome of my inquiries.
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Queen: or Stolin (more on the chasidish side, but mixed)
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Joseph: Stolin is it's own chassidus. A bit too different for him. But you've certainly got the right idea.
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Queen: Maybe take a look at it after you researched the others. Its a mix with litvish too (many old-time Chaim Berliners sent there.)
I'm not intimately familiar with them, but perhaps look into Yeshiva of Bensonhurst and Yeshiva Tiferes Elimelech as well.
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The Queen of Persia-
Is Torah Vodas an option?
I don't think the high school learns in Yiddish, but I remember it as being chasidish / litvish.
FYI in the non-chasidishe yeshivos I went to, by the time boys are 17 they are usually accepting of those with different levush and minhagim, and don't pick on or ostracize them.
I can empathize with you that it's not easy - I wish you and your son much hatzlocha.Joseph-
Tizku lemitzvos.Posted 1 year ago # -
I agree with ICOT, Torah Vodas is well-worth considering.
One other Yeshiva that comes to mind is The Cheder (near McDonald Ave.)
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There is a yeshiva on rechov sorotzkin in yerushalayim similar to what you are describing but I don't know the name offhand.
It's where Lakewood East used to be if I'm not mistaken.Posted 1 year ago # -
Chasam Sofer sounds like a good choice, but by age 17 maybe he is looking for a post high school yeshiva? Although I think they go a few years past high school. My brothers were there for elementary school and left for high school because they did need more of a demanding high school so it sounds good for your son.
It is sad that yeshivas gear themselves for the "top" bachurim and leave the weaker students to the dogs. I remember in high school I felt that a lot of teachers aimed their lessons at the top 10% of the class and the rest of us would have to try to keep up.
I feel that teachers should gear their lessons to the average students. The weak students should be provided with modification if necessary and the gifted students could be given extra to be stimulated. It sounds simpler than it is. I know it's not. But who says the weaker students aren't worth enough to spend extra time to make it work for everyone?
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Is a gray suit on a week-day Bal-Habatish???
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QUEEN- Please, do your research immediately and just place him in whatever sounds best to you, even if it's not 100% what you wanted.It's not healthy for anyone, especially a young boy to sit home all day. It's not good for his sanity, and not too great for his self esteem either. Please resolve the matter immediately. Im very worried for him. He needs structure and schedule.
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V'yelipol in Flatbush
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We're doing as much research as possile and as quickly as we can. But sometimes it takes time for people to get back to us. You'd be surprised how many brick walls we've run up against just trying to get our foot in the door to speak to the Rosh Yeshiva, or the person in charge of accepting new boys. Hockerinbklyn: V'elipol is also on the list. Thank you. And thank you to "I can only try" as well as the rest of you for your kind brachos and helpful ideas. Let me clarify that we are looing for Yeshiva Gedola (not mesivta). And if anyone knows.... what's the difference between Chasam Sofer and Chasan Sofer?
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The Queen of Persia
I think there is only one, chasan sofer, I think i wrote it wrong with the "m" Anyway it's located on 19th and 51st I think.Posted 1 year ago # -
Queen: She likely meant Ch'san Sofer. The only Chasam Sofer I know of, is in Eretz Yisroel.
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Joseph
Right! Ch'san Sofer sounds right!!Posted 1 year ago # -
not pashut
i think its called derech hamelechwhat about shaar yashuv in f.rockaway. people where "long" on shabbos.
also in lkwd n.j. there might be a yeshiva thet fits .dont know name.Posted 1 year ago # -
sorry,
wear "long"Posted 1 year ago # -
The Queen of Persia-
Yeshiva Derech Chaim in Boro Park is a beis medrash that generally accepts good kids, even if they're not top learners.
I do think all learning is done in English, though.There are a couple of mesivtas in Flatbush that cater to boys who might be shvach learners or non-mainstream. I think Rabbi Rafael Walerstein and Rabbi Friedman (don't remember his first name, but his yeshiva is on East 15th St. between J&K) are the ones who run the yeshivos. They may have some Beis Medrash ideas, since I would imagine some of their boys go on to learn full-time.
In my days there were several small "yeshivos" that were basically a rosh yeshiva/rebbe and maybe 10 boys learning in a shul. I don't know of any specifically nowadays, but would it pay to look into something like that?
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I have another question. Do you think a married woman should be on first name basis with a man (other than her husband of course).
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shindy: Absolutely not.
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Shindy (q. #2): surely someone will bring a source but the short answer - I don't think so and I'm not comfortable with it. I might extend the first name to a few more family members, such as brothers- and sons in law, cousins, nephews, etc.
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Shindy: I think it's a matter of halacha. Not opinion. She should NOT be on first name basis with any man other than her husband (or brothers). And the same goes for men addressing women other than their wives. Mrs. so and so only.
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The Queen of Persia, can you site your halachic source for this psak? thank you.
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Shindy: did you check rav moshes teshuva
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So what did women call men before there were surnames? Hey You???? When someone refers to me as Mrs. So and So, I feel very uncomfortable, especially when they are people with whom I am well-acquainted.
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I posted this in another thread, but it got bypassed pretty quick by a heated debate between, well, the usual entertainment's.
Here I go... again:Wanted to hear your opinions, and why.
A skirt that passes the knees by 2 inches.
OR
A skirt down to the ankles, with a slit that reaches 2 inches up before the knee.Which one (or both?), do you think is less appropriate, and why?
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A SLIT??? Nisht gut. Two inches below the knee? Well, if you sit down it will probably be too short. that's the test.
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When you say "before" the knee, do you mean above or below?
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The skirt down to the ankles with a slit is much less appropriate because of the peek-a-boo effect... The other skirt should be fine unless its too tight that it wont cover your knees when seated...
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the skirt with the slit is obviously less apropriate. a skirt with a slit is very noticeable and attracts a lot of attention. whereas a skirt that covers the knee doesnt.
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"A skirt that passes the knees by 2 inches" try sitting down with that skirt- are you knees showing? I'm sure they are & according to the jewish law a ladys knees are not allowed to show at all.
"A skirt down to the ankles, with a slit that reaches 2 inches up before the knees" this will probably not show your knees when you sit but a long skirt with a nice slit is something that will defenitely catch peoples eyes & it may attract a mans eyes to your body . . . . i leave the rest to your understanding!!
So in my opinon they are really both unappropriate for a jewish female & heres a tip for a 2 inch skirt that just passes the knees. Just take the hem down & you should get at least another 1/2"-1 1/2" inches which will make huge difference.
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"according to the jewish law a ladys (sic) knees are not allowed to show at all."
This is the problem I have with the common understanding of tznius. Nowhere does it say in the Torah that a woman is required to keep her knees, elbows, and collarbone covered. Obviously, men and women must both ensure that we dress modestly and do not attract attention to our bodies, but the standards that I see used today by some go so far beyond what is really necessary. I don't see a problem with either skirt in the example above, and outside of certain communities where men are used to seeing women completely covered up, I don't think the average man would get excited by the sight of an uncovered knee.
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A SKIRT WITH A SLIT IS ASSUR- PERIOD. It attracts much attention. That cant be denied.
Lenghth of skirt- to each individual, must make sure your knees are covered AT ALL TIMES- when standing, sitting, and when getting into a van....etc....Posted 1 year ago # -
There is no such thing as "more assur" and "less assur". And certainly you can't validate something that is worng based on something else which is wrong.
So, if you see the problem with both, then BOTH are inappropriate. Since both are inappropriate, which one is less than the other is irrelevant.
If you are asking the question, then at the very least you recognize that these are gray areas. If that is the case then why you are asking others to opine on which comes closer to crossing the line? You want to live in gray areas? Then draw your own lines. I can't think of a situation where the question is relevant.
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JFem, I don't understand why knees are attractive myself. The most elegant length is just past mid calf, IMO, though I wear longer.
A lot depends on minhag hamakom. Generally, to feel comfortable anywhere, women should keep their collarbones, elbows and knees covered; I do feet too but there are communities that are more liberal and I don't mean MO.I think this a CYLOR issue, and everyone who considers him/herself observant should have a rav/rebbetzin/mashpia to ask questions of and bounce things off of.
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