A few days ago Zeeskite wrote a post saying that discussing the abuse trial is not fit for this atmosphere. I just want to give my opinions for why I believe it is important.
I implore everyone to go speak with a survivor of any kind of abuse from within the orthodox community- that you trust- and ask them if they think its important to discuss such matters on frum internet forums. They will say yes.
If you dont know someone who was abused that you trust- that's part of the problem- because they exist, and you would never know it. Over my years, I have come across hundreds of orthodox young women who were abused- and I promise you , you would never ever know.
Most of those abused in the frum world go their entire lives without telling anyone. Forget testifying or accusing- there is such a taboo and so much shame just to admit in our community that you were abused.
I am a young orthodox woman. I am not OTD. I was abused for many years by a frum person. It wasn't until I found an internet forum, for FRUM people, that were discussing the issue- that I had the courage to ANONYMOUSLY (imagine the shame when not anonymous??) type the words "I was abused" even as i write them now, i feel shame. Because in our community where shomer negiah and the sanctity of anything sexual are greatly emphasized, admitting to abuse is even harder then in other communities. Thats why survivors need your support more then ever.
When a case like weberman is publicized, it takes away a little bit of the shame I feel. It makes me know that I am not alone and that justice is acheivable. When I see it being discussed on Jewish websites it makes me feel like there is progress and hope for the next generation. You really cant understand how important it is to survivors to see abuse being discussed by frum people- but hopefully this post will make you understand a little bit. When abuse is being discussed, it gives a "go-ahead" for people who may be holding onto demons to come forward and admit that they were abused. When abuse is not discussed, very few will ever come forward. We see this now, many have commented on the fact that "once XYZ said they wee abused, all these other people claimed they were too, we should believe all of them" YES. EXACTLY. that's the point !!! when abuse is no longer something to be incredibly ashamed and taboo to speak about, the stories will come. they are already coming.
In conclusion, the discussion of topics such as abuse and the weberman trial in a frum place, serve as a means for frum abused people to feel less shame, feel hope, and find a little peace. I think every Torah Jew should feel a desire to be a part of enabling that, and not disabling it by saying things like "this is not the place for discussion of such disgusting topics"