A friend of mine got dumped after date 1 cuz dude said shes "Too Girly." What duz that mean?? Thoughts??
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Too Girly
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Posted 8 months ago #
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this can mean many things and can be defined differently by many. now, i happen to be a female that's very tomboyish.
being girly as i understand it to be:
cries for every little thing, very emotional, very moody, gets crazy over certain things, very "pitchetchy" as they would say... and if i may say, i see why the guys hate it...Posted 8 months ago # -
"girly" sounds to be the antonym of "tomboy".
Posted 8 months ago # -
This is the perfect reason for this thread: http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/reason-for-saying-no
How do I cross-link them?
Posted 8 months ago # -
is she under 22? I would say either she came across as immature,
or just too girly. A guy understands that girls are extremely different than guys. However when they come across too intensely
with their girlishness, this could even be in conversation,
talking about real girly things with the guy, he may feel to alienated and uncomfortable by her, and her choice of conversation.There is no one way to describe it but i'll try.
Perhaps she says "like" like every third word, engrossed in a conversation about how her friend likes purple flowers and like she likes pink flowers, and like when her friend like went to the store to buy her that top and they were like out of the pink flowers omg! She like should've know to get her the fuchsia flowered one instead of the purple Right? I mean like omg, you like totally understand where i'm coming from right.
This is just a rough example, I think you can imagine how a guy
would feel having to listen to this type of jabber (Please look up the word) for two hours.Posted 8 months ago # -
All the responses makes sense to me. Immature might be the best description.
Posted 8 months ago # -
All these may be things to think about and work on if they are true, on the other hand HE might need a dating coach to explain that girls are "girly" and boys should be "manly". A boy cannot expect a girl to act like his chavrusah and should understand that girls will behave differently than their friends do.
So you might have to review the date and see if there were things you did or if there is something about you naturally that would give off a particular "girly" or immature vibe. If it is true then you can thank him for being honest so you can work on the areas that need improvement in order to help you for future shidduchim. If he is off the mark, then just chalk it up to a mismatch and move on. Don't let it get to you.
Posted 8 months ago # -
aries2756; the op is clearly states "A friend of mine".
So It is absolutely totally not her.Posted 8 months ago # -
bein- lol. N I actually dont hafta look it up.
aries- It was a friend, not me. One vibe I almost never give off (in person anyway, dunno bout coffeeroom) is immature. N yeah.. Like- duz this guy not know what girls r like?? I never heard of that one yet..Posted 8 months ago # -
s2021; To be honest, some guys like a girly girl, and find it cute.
I have a friend (not me) who keeps complaining that many girls that are Redt to him are sad and boring.Posted 8 months ago # -
HaLeVia says, too girly might mean that she actually got insulted when he casually made a rude or nasty comment.
Posted 8 months ago # -
BH, my apologies to the OP, please replace any inference to the OP in my post with "your friend".
Posted 8 months ago # -
It means fat.
(cshapiro, this is your cue to yell at me.)
Posted 8 months ago # -
For a boy to say a girl is "too girly" is a 5-alarm code red in my book. What does he want... someone who is more masculine?
She was lucky to get out while she could.
Posted 8 months ago # -
S2021, your sentence structure and grammar leads me to believe that the individual in question, is in fact yourself.
Posted 8 months ago # -
sib; Here again we go with the grammer.
Are you by any chance substituting for haifagirl?
(How'd you like my spelling and structure?)
Posted 8 months ago # -
was she wearing all pink?
Posted 8 months ago # -
Mr. Stuck, anyone around here long enough knows that that is not the case.
Posted 8 months ago # -
there should be some kind of coffee room shadchan here. would be hysterical to go out with another person who spends waaay to much time on here.
Posted 8 months ago # -
PBA- It does not at all mean that.
bpt- Read bein_hasdorim's explanation - which had me LOL!
Talking loud, very animated, constant use of words like "like" and OMG, and over exaggerating everything are some of the signs. When you see one you will know it... and probably start laughing!
Posted 8 months ago # -
Bein - ur fist post had me rolling! Thanx!!!
Posted 8 months ago # -
as always, your very welcome mustang!
Posted 8 months ago # -
talks with a girl accent
offended easily
very emotional/moody
neat freakPosted 4 months ago # -
Bochur540, are you forreal?? I'd say the first 3 things you said are true, but the last one only goes with personality..there are guys that are neat freaks too, it's not only a girls thing.
Do you mean girly accent as in not in a women tone of voice?Posted 4 months ago # -
Doesn't like smoking.
Posted 4 months ago # -
jothar, its girly to dislike smoking?
Posted 4 months ago # -
Too girly means he wanted only one girl, he got more.
Posted 4 months ago # -
She either disliked smoking or disliked B.O., and the guy was offended.
Or she didn't have a mustache.
Posted 4 months ago # -
bochur540- On a first date its not that easy to know if she is offended easily and very emotional/moody unless she mentioned more than once instance of of both....or she blabbed on and on and on and on and on and on.....
Posted 4 months ago # -
i assume your post was meant to be read sarcastically?
Posted 4 months ago # -
my posts are sarcastic. I hate smoking.
Posted 4 months ago # -
Maybe he meant too emotional or needy, giggly, or flighty. He didn't say too feminine, he said girly.
Posted 4 months ago # -
OP,
If you write "duz" for "does," that's too girly.Posted 4 months ago # -
HaLeVia says, too girly might mean that she actually got insulted when he casually made a rude or nasty comment.
Are you not supposed to get insulted when someone casually makes a nasty comment? How does this make sense?
Posted 4 months ago # -
I once knew someone who refused to date girls who didn't have brothers, as they would have these lofty ideas of men from their rabbeim and seforim which would clash with the reality. Maybe that's what he meant.
Posted 4 months ago # -
You have to ask him what he meant? Maybe he misspoke. The implication is he wants someone more boyish. Oy!
Posted 4 months ago # -
The only one who can explain what he meant is him. Ask for a clarification with a few examples of what"too girly " is if you really need to know
Posted 4 months ago # -
I wish my ex husband had told me during dating that I was too girly!!! After we married, he did not want or let me wear anything with flowers, feminine colors, designs, even makeup! He said its too feminine and too much. So yes, if he thinks you're too girly, thank him for saying it now!
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