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  • #1340866

    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    “Just in case you didn’t understand – WYSIWYG = What You See Is What You Get – it is a compliment, as far as the CR goes, meaning that you don’t come across like you’re trying to be someone you are not, and that you appear to be very genuine.”

    Thank you.

    “My open invitation to make contact with me is limited to the male faction of the CR. Curious as I may be to meet you all, I don’t feel it would be appropriate to socialize or “get to know” the females on board.”

    True. Glad to hear you’re Frum.

    Although in my case, it would probably be less of a problem since I’m probably old enough to be your mother, and my friends’ kids let me talk to them. Or at least some of them do – it depends on the kid. And some of them seem to go through different stages, and I always have to figure out what stage they’re at.

    #1340954

    Little Froggie
    Participant

    LuL: I’m sorry I didn’t mention you, I think you do live here. I think you’d be a most amazing person for my wife to meet!! (Sorry she doesn’t respond to”Mrs Froggie”)

    #1341276

    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    LF – that’s so nice of you! Thanks! I’m actually in chu”l. right now, so the meeting might have to wait until we are in the same country.

    #1341333

    Joseph
    Participant

    It was nice seeing you last time.

    #1342660

    Actually, I’m curious about the leftist posters, too (you know who you are).

    #1343210

    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Daas Yachid: “I think this entire exercise is one which lends itself to someone being insulted.”

    Good point! I sincerely hope that I didn’t offend anyone. If I did, I apologize and hope that you are moichel me. Please let me know if you are not.

    #1343217

    Joseph
    Participant

    I’m not.

    #1343245

    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    For real or for a joke? I don’t want to have it on my cheshbon that I insulted anyone, even slightly.

    #1343256

    Joseph
    Participant

    Are you moichel me for jesting with you?

    #1343273

    HaLeiVi
    Participant

    Midwesterner, did we ever meet?

    #1344457

    Geordie613
    Participant

    I nearly actually met Yekke2 last night. He texted me that he was at a wedding that I was invited to but could not attend.
    We’ll get there…

    #1345323

    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    I’m changing my list: Reb Shidduch, Lightbrite, Reb Yidd, Winnie the Pooh, Mammala, Rebbetzin DY and kinderlach, Rebbetzin Joseph and kinderlach, Rebbetzin Meno, Rebbetzin Geordie, Yekke’s mom and sisters, and Randomex’s mom and sisters, and Rebbetzin Froggie and kinderlach, and Gofish and Golfer and all other female posters and all male posters’ wives and kids or mothers and sisters.

    If you’re not on my list, it’s an accident and please be moichel (or let me know if you’re not, but only if you’re for real).

    #1345353

    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    And yes, I’m moichel you.

    #1345369

    golfer
    Participant

    It would be fun to meet you LilmodU!
    You’re one of the few posters that I imagine I have a clear picture of.
    A lot of others have me wondering how much of what they’re typing is really who they are and how much is an avatar of sorts created for blogging.
    It would be interesting to find out how far the mental image is from the real you.
    For your part you’d probably find exactly what you expected in an ordinary sort of way.

    #1345475

    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Thanks for the compliment, Golfer!

    I agree with what you said about the other posters.

    I also think that I come across the way I really am.

    “For your part you’d probably find exactly what you expected in an ordinary sort of way.”
    Not sure what you mean by that.

    #1345731

    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    “I think this entire exercise is one which lends itself to someone being insulted.”

    without question

    #1346453

    midwesterner
    Participant

    Haleivi: Not that I’m aware of.

    #1346469

    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    (Psst-mazel tov!)

    #1346484

    golfer
    Participant

    LilmodU,
    What I meant was- if I was to meet you then obviously you would also meet me. And for your part, that’s most likely the impression you’d have.

    IMHO people should try not to be insulted by comments of anonymous faceless entities on their computer screen that can be zapped into oblivion with the click of a mouse.
    We have enough to keep us busy in Elul finding forgiveness in our hearts for the real live speaking breathing humans who insult us.

    #1346492

    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    Golfer-i think your opinions are both humble and valued. And I agree that people *should* try not to hey insulted but let’s be honest, anonymous faceless entities are living breathing people and their insults hurt as much as their compliments warm. Sure they may be bullies or meanspiriyed poking at you for invalid reasons that shouldn’t be personalized but the same goes for real life bullies at school or work. Having a name and a face may magnify the insult but ask anyone who has been hurt and they will tell you it hurts nonetheless. We have heard it expressed here many times. Even tho some would love to absolve themselves from responsibility by calling it a human right, that is not the Torahs way.
    (The doesn’t mean you aren’t welcome to come by for coffee on your next trip to Chicago tho…)

    #1346497

    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Golfer, while you are right that each person should work on himself to be moichel others, IMHO, you can’t tell people that they shouldn’t be insulted by people who insult them. And the fact that it’s a “computer person” doesn’t matter. They are still real people. That concept has come up before (by others) and I think it’s ridiculous.

    It may happen occasionally that someone is insulted by something ridiculous in which case, PERHAPS, one can tell them that (but be very careful before deciding that it’s ridiculous or that it’s your place to say so), but that has nothing to do with whether or not they are computer people.

    In fact, I think that it can be easier to be insulted by people in the CR than in real life. For one thing, in real life, you can choose who you talk to, whereas in the CR, you can only choose whether or not to be in the CR.

    Also, in real life, it is easier to let people know if you are insulted: They can see your facial expressions, and it is easier to have a conversation with them. In real life when people insult me, I let them know so that they can have the opportunity to ask me mechila and not get gehinnom. In the CR, it is not possible to do that, and it really concerns me.

    I think that it is a big Mitzvah to let someone know (politely) if they insulted you, and really cruel not to.

    Again, on the person’s part – of course he should work on not being insulted and/or being moichel, but I don’t think that’s something that you can tell others to do (and it isn’t always a healthy approach -many people need to work on validating their feelings)

    #1346502

    golfer
    Participant

    I hear you Syag.
    I’m absolutely not trying to absolve anyone of the obligation to keep their comments kind and considerate.
    I was trying to suggest that on the receiving end it might be wise to keep our feathers smooth and unruffled.
    But I do agree with you.
    And thanks so much for the invite. I’m sure you’ve deduced by now that I’m nesting a fair bit east of your home, but you never know…

    #1346501

    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Golfer – I hope you weren’t insulted by my strong response! I just saw SYAG’s (after I posted) and I see that she said the same thing but less strongly.

    Let me know if you’re insulted, so I can ask you mechil (and I am serious).

    And you’re definitely welcome for coffee!

    #1346527

    golfer
    Participant

    Hello again LilmodU.
    So while we’re on the topic of insulting and getting insulted, I encountered a bit of a CR problem myself right here.
    Our kind hardworking mods released Syag’s post for publication while still keeping yours under wraps for consideration. I responded to Syag, but after your wise words were disclosed later it looked as if I had ignored you and responded to Syag while overlooking your post.
    I know you realize that was never my intention.
    As for my being insulted, no, not at all.
    Where may I join you for coffee?

    #1346592

    Joseph
    Participant

    I Can Only Try

    #1346594

    Warrior
    Participant

    Warrior

    #1346916

    midwesterner
    Participant

    Syag: Thank you!! Does this personal wish of Mazel Tov mean we have to acknowledge that we’ve already met?

    #1346925

    🍫Syag Lchochma
    Participant

    ha ha, I guess so. Or that I’m an experienced stalker….

    #1347029

    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Golfer – you’re safe! B”H, I only saw both of your responses now at the same time. Actually, I even kind of saw your second one first, since I went to the bottom of the page first and as I was shifting up to where I left off, I saw your second post first.

    I actually had not yet seen your post before I posted my apology since it wasn’t up yet (even though you might not be able to tell from the order that the posts were modded, although you can tell from the numbers).

    As for where you can meet me for coffee, sorry but I don’t know how I would be able to let you know that 🙁

    And by the way, I didn’t really think you were insulted – I was just playing it safe. I know that you are not the type to bear grudges or think badly of others.

    #1348126

    kitov
    Participant

    Why engage in wish full thinking
    When the likely hood of meeting is slim to none
    ?

    #1349793

    Lightbrite
    Participant

    LU: By the way, you’re on the top of my list. I felt uncomfortable posting a list of which CRers I’d want to meet in real life, because I don’t want to exclude anyone.

    When it comes to male posters, I’d want to see them in their natural habitat, but not necessarily meet them. Just out of curiosity to see if they’re like I imagine.

    Yepp yepp 🙂

    #1349806

    Joseph
    Participant

    Where is their natural habitat?

    #1349865

    Lightbrite
    Participant

    Possible male CRers’ natural habitats (at least where I’ve seen frum men in places):

    -Men’s section at shul
    -Mingling in a group with other men, over drinks and snacks, during Shabbos
    -Over there on the couch talking about something after kiddush at someone’s house
    -Costco on Thursdays (my natural habitat as well)
    -Restaurant on date night with wife
    -Restaurant with family
    -On the road walking on Shabbos
    -At the Rabbi’s home during Shabbos
    -In the car driving
    -Torah classe
    -Jewish event, like a big shiur with a visiting Rabbi

    Just like basic places where you find people living life, except a little specialized to account for a frum Jewish man’s life

    Can you think of any other places where you may find male CRers?

    Thanks Joseph 🙂

    #1349888

    Joseph
    Participant

    No, I must thank you. Now I know where to repose.

    #1349904

    Lightbrite
    Participant

    Lol… seriously lol Joseph 😄

    #1349882

    👑RebYidd23
    Participant

    Kitov, wishful thinking is one of the most fun kinds.

    #1349945

    takahmamash
    Participant

    I’d like to meet The Wolf, oomis, Lightbrite, and CTLAWER – the four of them are the most down-t-earth and seemingly real people in the CR. Unfortunately, at least 3 of them (maybe even all four) live in the states, and since it’s fairly rare that I’m back there, I don’t think a meeting would ever happen.

    #1349939

    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    LB -thanks so much for the compliment!

    By the way, I would have said “in the Beis Medrash”

    #1349931

    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    “Can you think of any other places where you may find male CRers?”

    At the Kosel on Motzei Shabbos:

    Which CR Poster do you want to meet in real life?

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