So Flatbush27, if a person told you that their rav allows for a woman to dress up on Purim, you should accept it, and not question it. After all, you did say, "Not individuals who think they know more than a rav." Also, the same would apply to a rav's approval of wearing another color.
Wouldn't it be better served to just say, "Everyone should do what their own rabbinical authority states" without any commentary?
Flatbush, there are rabbonim who believe it it untzniusdig for a woman to wear a shaitel without a hat atop it. They also believe that it is wrong for a woman to wear stockings without seams (even if dark), because then it appears as though the legs are uncovered. The women who follow the shittos of those rabbonim, by all means should always do what they say. I am not one of their followers, my rov holds differently, and as long as my rov has no issues with my behavior being untzniusdig, I will allow my poseik to determine what I should or should not do in matters of halacha. And I do not wear costumes, but it has nothing to do with tznius, it is simply my personal preference.
Sometimes I feel as though there are some posters here who are trying to "convert" some of us, because they absolutely KNOW that they alone have the universal truth. To be frank, it has the opposite effect, and chalilah could drive someone away if that person is wavering in his or her commitment to Torah. An opinion can always be expressed in a mature, NON-JUDGMENTAL way, but I don't see that being the case at times here. Those of us who believe more in following the shvil hazahav, do not see eye to eye with fire and brimstone preachers. And we probably never will. I can appreciate and respect your point of view on most issues while disagreeing with it, but the sad fact is that some of you do not extend the same courtesy to the rest of us, and you come across as strident at times.
dont feel like reading through the whole thread but my teenage daughter wants to know if she could dress up this purim. initially i said no because i felt it would not be tznius but what do people here think? should i just change my mind say yes?
It depends on what she is dressed as. Tzniusdig clothing can be in constume form.
There is no reason women should not enjoy the chag with their daughters and families. Tznius always applies whether it is Purim, Pesach or vacations in Florida.
To summarize for you.
"My rav said, no way".
"My rav said , go for it".
What does YOUR rav say?
Jphone
I never really asked! :)
Personally I was taught that you go to your Rav to ask a sheilah you don't know the answer to or you don't understand. Things that are no brainers don't have to be asked.
i dont think most people call there rav for every minor issue that comes up in life. yes people do but most of us dont have our rav on speed dial. once in a while maybe we mix up a fleishig knife with a milchigs one and we dont know what to do so we call our rav but to call about our wives and daughters dressing up on purim outside the house we dont call, we as the man of the household make the decision ourself without our mommy holding our hands or our rav whispering in our ear. maybe im just talking for myself
dont feel like reading through the whole thread but my teenage daughter wants to know if she could dress up this purim. initially i said no because i felt it would not be tznius but what do people here think? should i just change my mind say yes?
In some communities the women dress up. In other communities they don't.
Is your daughter going to a school-sponsored function where there girls are expected to dress up? Is she just going to be hanging out with friends? Does the school have a policy? What do the other people in your community do?
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