Schneubs

Beee-that’s a great idea.
However, I don’t think the mods would allow such a thing 🙁

Good morning everyone.

Joseph-thanks for the cute thought.

Any other thoughts?

Thank you shopping613.

For example, I own a 1997 Toyota Camry.
As long as it’s clean and presentable,
why shouldn’t I be able to date in it?

That kind of mindset is what i’m looking for.

Thank you MTAB.

That’s one thing that seems to be better in some smaller, more OOT communities.
Acceptance and more appreciation of Baalei Baatim.
I’ve seen that personally in a few smaller communities.
I’m looking for either an OOT girl, or at least someone with that kind of outlook.
Living more simply, etc

Sure, we all like nice things, but not everything is a necessity

Thank you again to everyone who has commented.
I already have a lot to think about.

But please keep the thoughts/advice/suggestions etc coming!

Is there anyone who personally feels/felt the same way?
I don’t think it’s just me.

Thank you Shopping613.

Honesty is very important to me.
I’m looking for someone that I can be completely myself around them.
Someone who I feel I can confide in.
I’m usually on the quieter side.
I’m definitely not the life of the party type at all.
In yeshiva, I was one of the first to go to sleep.
I don’t think I’ve really ever had a desire to stay up late like most guys seem to do.
Early to bed, early to rise, I guess?
Comes with being a Yekki.
Along with nightmares of being late to davening.
(I actually have had nightmares like that)

Honestly, there is nothing I’d like to do more than start shidduchim now.
But I feel the smartest thing is to have a viable parnassah before.
I don’t have a fallback option like others do.
I know that I can’t be supported financially by my parents.

I’m from out of town, and went to an established yeshiva out of town.
I was actually the only bochur from my city.
To get home I would rent a car.
I had to pay for that myself (occasionally my parents did give me something towards that)
I earned money by checking the eruv and learning mishnayos with an elementary school boy.

I don’t expect (or really want) to be supported by my in-laws.

Hence, I feel the need to have a parnassah first.

By the way, in regard to knaasim,
I was referring to monetary fines from the yeshiva,
to those that came late to shachris.

P.S. Recently I have been trying to learn some Halacha on a daily basis.
I also have been doing shnayim mikra.

Thank you MonseyIma.

I agree that there needs to some learning on a daily basis.
It hurt so much being in yeshiva, watching many of my friends
learning and enjoying it…

I’ve always known that learning full time was not for me.
It’s accepting that there’s nothing wrong with me that’s harder sometimes.

And what experience do you have?
(I’m looking for more than a yes and no answer)

My thoughts exactly MTAB.

I’m really looking for insights, although encouragement helps too!