Rabbi David Stav, a senior figure in the hesder yeshiva network and activist in Rabbanei Tzohar has announced the couples attending chasenahs of friends should not give more than 300 NIS. The rav feels if the amount of gifts remains modest, it will result in a drop in wedding costs, a win/win situation. The rav feels the 300 NIS amount should be viewed as a gift ceiling as young couples are having difficulty financing chasenahs.
Rabbi Stav explains that at times, the bal simcha feels the wedding gifts will cover the cost of the event and he frowns on such a practice, adding this is especially challenging for the many rabbonim invited to many weddings and they simply cannot meet the challenge of giving the expected gift.
Tzfas Chief Sephardi Rabbi Shmuel Eliyahu adds that guests should bring what they can afford, and if not a check then they should bring a gift of value, like silver, and if not, something of “spiritual value”, explaining the main point is to come and participate in the simcha of a friend and not to have agmas nefesh over how much one can/should spend on a gift.
(YWN – Israel Desk, Jerusalem)