Comments on: Tragedy? (Written Anonymously By A YW Reader)

By: Albus Dumbledore

Albus Dumbledore — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 19:19:03 +0000

What ure saying about the money is all too true…
but
I know plenty of unwealthy girls who married terrific guys, as well as plenty of wealthy girls who are still searching.
Its pretty clear that its all Hashgacha pratis.
And u can have all the sarcasm in the world, but the way of the world is the same its always been.

We do our utmost hishtadlus (way ta go Gold!) but then we gotta take a step back and let Him do the rest.
Lo alecha hamlacha ligmor.
We could only try our best. But… only WE know if its really our best.
Hatzlacha to e/o waiting for a yeshua.

By: ploiderer1

ploiderer1 — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 17:14:46 +0000

actually gold, נדוניא is also part of the kesuva. As long as there are more girls than boys, the girls’ fathers will have to pay big bucks.

By: Gold

Gold — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 16:01:28 +0000

to ploiderer1 – i think you missed my original posting. if we would have the males back to their role in the kesuva – supporting their families when they get married – then the girls’ parents don’t have to have the “gold” to marry off their daughters.

By: anonowriter

anonowriter — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 15:26:09 +0000

Gold – of course we must do our hishtadlus.
(That’s why I put the smile at the end of my sentence; to show that mine was just an addition…)
Just trying to lighten the threatening mood around here, but it seems as though some people just can’t help but throw a sarcastic comment.

May we all merit to do our utmost to help those around us, with the roght attitude, and through that, be zocheh to the geulah shleimah.

By: sruly613

sruly613 — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 14:52:28 +0000

Anonowriter, That is not a nice attitude to Gold who apparently tries to make shidduchim and is succesful. Since you sound like the poem writer a big thank you to him/her would be more appropriate. Good Luck to you.

By: judy

judy — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 08:14:00 +0000

Wow, anono that comment really helps in this discussion.

So lets all sit back and relax, and wait for hashgacha pratis to do the job…

By: Gold

Gold — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 05:11:28 +0000

yes, hashgacha pratis…but we all have to do our hishtadlus.

By: ploiderer1

ploiderer1 — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 04:45:36 +0000

actually, Gold, what it takes is a lot of gold.

By: anonowriter

anonowriter — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 00:40:00 +0000

Wow, 40+ comments on Yeshivaworld.
So, some people missed the point.
Others are harping on the fact that I’m 25.
Still others assume that my job is well-paying. LOL.
And that my family relationships are perfect.
Some offered brachos; others, their condolences.
I truly hope no one was hurt.
‘Twas meant for those looking at others as pitiful creatures to realize that we are not so. I’m not belittling the hurt and pain singles experience. What I am saying is that most of the singles I know, be they 21, 31, 48 or 25; most are not comforted by the fact that others view them as victims of a tragic circumstance.
Does that mean that others shouldn’t care? Of course not! Please, continue to make shidduchim, how difficult it may be.
But to paint a life as a tragedy – please. Save that for the episodes described by one of the commenters (may they never occur again).

By: anonowriter

anonowriter — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 00:13:41 +0000

actually, gold, what it takes to make a shidduch is hashgacha pratis.