Comments on: Can Spanking Cause Mental Illness?

By: gershon775

gershon775 — Mon, 13 May 2013 10:24:17 +0000

i was s and p abused and am affected by mental illness.

By: yosef91

yosef91 — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 12:03:19 +0000

The fact that I visit this site is I like American papers nd I used to be frumer but the fact that I’m not frum anymore dosnt mean I shoudnt read this paper. Nd yes I do have a criminal record in America I wasn’t alowed back in to the states for that reason! I got stuck in England! Happens to be I also have one here in England to but that’s not the point! It dosnt mean that the fact that parents hit ther kids is for certain that the kid will grow up wrong but it def factors in. Ther is a lot of other ways that people mess up with ther kids its very hard to find the right balance for ur kid since every kid is diffrent to some level. Ends up that it all contributes towards the shaping up of ur kid the good nd the bad. Try keep it balanced I guess

By: mdd

mdd — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 11:38:41 +0000

#26, what do you do with the pesukim and ma’amorei Chazal, which say otherwise?

By: Boruh

Boruh — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 04:50:16 +0000

Just read book of Rav Shlomo Wolbe “Planting and building in. Raising a Jewish child” second chapter about panishment and listen to shiurim about Chinuch of Rav Belsky on http://www.mp3shiur.com/viewProd.asp?catID=122

I once heard ( I think on shiur of Rav Goldwasser) that you can win the battle but loose the war or you can loose battle but win the war.

I spanked my son and ruined our relations. And don’t tell that Torah and Shulchan Aruch require hitting children, it is a lie.

We have to pass Torah to our children, and that could be done only with love.

By: Gadolhadorah

Gadolhadorah — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 04:38:33 +0000

No. 1

So did Rav Yisroel Salanter, Rav Shlomo Parnefsky and other gadolim but there are a few others who hold that corporal punishment is actually m’doraisah.

By: ddayleah

ddayleah — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 04:12:37 +0000

As a notable rabbi once said, “We owe it to our children to treat them with greater respect than we treat ourselves. Why? We learn by mesorah and if anything is done that prevents the transmission of Torah then we have erred.”
Most parents I know are releasing anger and frustration out on their children when they spank, hit etc….not true disciplne…Challenge me if you want, I’m just saying what seems to be the stark reality….

By: Milhouse

Milhouse — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 04:05:06 +0000

והלא מקרא מלא דבר הכתוב — חושך שבטו שונא בנו

By: lazerc

lazerc — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 03:35:28 +0000

a well placed spank will save hours of nagging and yelling. but excessive spanking creates just the opposite; it is negative and makes the kid nuts.

Again, a spank that is not brutal, is good. It tells the kid that he has gone beyond the line of good behaviour. It should be administered with sechel.

Excessive spanking is negative. It destroys the kid.

Think what you are doing to your kid.

By: Chaim Yankel

Chaim Yankel — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 03:09:57 +0000

The sforim that talk about occasionaly patching when necessary all say IT IS PROHIBITED TO DO IT OUT OF ANGER!!!
So all you big shots so proud of this “frumkeit” of yours, Do you really do it out of self control?
Most of us who resort to hitting do it out of anger and that is not allowed. It can cause tremendous damage to your children not just phisicaly but emotionally.
Stop the vicious cycle! Don’t do to your son what your father did to you. You will be a much more affective parent if you develop your self control and not let yourself get swept by your anger.

By: mdd

mdd — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 02:37:32 +0000

All the talk about how hitting does not help. Indeed, sometimes it does not. That’s why there is a parsha of ben sorer u’more in the Torah. They would execute such a fellow.