More importantly, this idea is simply not Jewish. Avraham didn’t tell Eliezer to look at Rivkah’s medical history nor that of her family. Quite the contrary, Betuel amd his son Lavan were barimpter scoundrels. Moshe Rabbeinu’s shver was a galach. (But what do you expect to get when you’re on the lam for murder?) It was the attributes of the bride and the groom as they appeared at the moment that mattered; not what was in a memo in some folder. The Gemara in Sotah tells us that G-d, on a daily basis, ordains matches. Why must we complicate His job so very much?

To the parents/daugter, Dovid Hamelach said it best: Be’erev yolin bechi, ve’laboker Rena

Everyone in the world has some sort of problem (that is after all why we are here, no one lives a perfect life). You can even marry someone completely “normal” and then end up with a major problem. Someone I know was diagnosed with diabetes (a chronic and potentially life threatening disease) two months after marriage! Another friend had a very hard time having children (which b’H they do now!).

These are all things that if known before would prevent a shidduch. But l’maseh, it is all in the hands of Hashem and He is the one who makes shidduchim. Whatever you know or do not know is up to Him to decide and guide you to marry the person who are supposed to marry, no matter what that entails.

May we share news of many simchas soon!

The Gemara states that one of the questions we ‘all’ will be asked on the Day of Judgment “Osaaktu B’periya V’rivyeah?”. The simple interpretation is “Did you marry and brought children into the world?”. The MaHarsha is bothered by the fact that if this was the sole meaning, than it should have stated “Kiyaamto?” did you fulfill, not “Osaaktu” which implies a continuous preoccupation with something, like we do business all the time.

The MaHarsha, therefore, interprets “Osaaktu B’periya V’rivyeah?” Did You Busy Yourself With Helping Others to Get Married, such as Orphans?

Now, I could say with certainty that the MaHarsha brings the example of orphans, because in those days, the orphans were the ones who were neglected, any no one looked out for them. Today, when in comes to Shidduchim, many, even those who are not orphans, are not looked after, but left to own means.

There is no question in my mind, that the crises of having thousands of our young people being single, is preventing the “Geula Shleimah.”