Comments on: Out Of The Mailbag – To YW Editor (Wedding Band Volume)

By: british

british — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 21:33:27 +0000

Okay everyone, great idea about the ear plugs and all, but in all honesty, do you really want to sit at a simcha, in all your finery, your beautiful gown, $2000 shaitel, diamand earings etc,….. with bright orange earplugs sticking out of your ears???? I mean after all, how ARE you gonna hear that loshon hora your neighbor is sharing with you?!?! We dont come to a simcha to sit in our own little cacoon, do we? I know I dont!!

By: yiddishemama

yiddishemama — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 19:24:46 +0000

My friend will soon be getting a degree in Audiology. Great field – there’s going to be a great need for them by this generation.

That ear plugs at a wedding are necessary can’t be denied. But that takes away from the pleasure of attending a wedding. Either way, you can’t hear what the people at your table are trying to say to you…

By: ObservantJew

ObservantJew — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 18:03:22 +0000

It seems that the sound level has gone off the decibel scale & on to the Richter scale at Jewish weddings! BTW, I plan to tell the band that if the music is to loud they won’t get paid!

By: mordekhai124

mordekhai124 — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 17:07:10 +0000

You know what all of you are not making any sense if the Music is so Loud ask the Musician to lower it a little bit.. The Musician would listen to your concern… There no reason to feel blocked by your concern… Just do what is good for everyone.. Just remember our job is feel the proper way of living and commuicate nicely and if it doesn’t work out ask the Chosson Father to ask the Musician to lower it.. Because he is paying for it..

By: Yeshivish Hocker

Yeshivish Hocker — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 15:12:36 +0000

#27 Filly Frum,
WHERE’S THE COPY&PASTE BUTTON!!

By: Rav Mechel

Rav Mechel — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 14:58:58 +0000

I suggest we boycott the bands that play too loudly. We should knock them all out of business. We should then institute a new rule, no more bands not even one man bands.The baal simcha should bring along his CD player and we should all listen and dance to songs off the CD played very low and calmly. Of coarse the music must only be from the pre 1960′s other wise we will be sure to anger some people. If people are still complaining that the music is too loud we should then convene an assifas rabonim and issue a decleration that music should be totally banned. We should then focus on the photography and video’s. Oh, they are such an annoyance, allways getting in the way and disturbibg our meals. Lets ban that too. Oh also the food, I was at a wedding last week and I came home with geferlach stomach cramps, lets do away with the food.
Anybody for my ideas?

By: daastorah

daastorah — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 07:55:45 +0000

Throughout the comments we repeatedly see the common enemy ‘the baal hasimcha’. when taking a closer look we find that many of the people commenting have at one point been one of those notorious ‘baalei simcha’.
The baal simcha is not at fault. The ‘baal simcha’got his title only hours earlier and will loose his status a few hours later. Before he will assume this status again, he’ll be attending many more simchas as victim of loud music caused by the ‘baal simcha’.
The BS is not the one who instructs the band to play too loud nor does he tell the waiter how to serve. He is thinking about his simcha or the debt it is causing him.
Just like the guest he does not feel qualified to mix in to the technical aspects of the wedding. After all, he is only a fresh baal simcha who doesn’t have any experience.
The best way to deal with this problem is by posting names of problem bands on this forum. No one likes negative publicity. The day a list of ‘top ten too loud bands’ goes up we will start seeing improvement.

By: yehudayona

yehudayona — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 06:54:21 +0000

I was at a chasuna where the baal simcha DID ask the band to lower the volume and they refused.

I wear earplugs, but I’d prefer not to have to read lips to understand what the person next to me is saying. And I don’t understand the comments from musicians saying that the music has to be loud to be heard throughout the hall — in my experience, it’s too loud throughout the hall.

Doesn’t the government in Israel now regulate the sound level in simcha halls?

By: yoma

yoma — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 02:17:20 +0000

You see it goes like this.The bal simcha paid a arm and three legs for this wedding, so to feel like he is getting his money worth, he wants the music to play as loud as possible, so he can forget that the 5 hour wedding is costing 40 thousand dollars, above everything he has paid out, and will pay out later.Its a kind of anesthetic for the bal simcha.So now you know why the music is so loud, so he doesn’t feel the pain and and doesn’t feel like such a fool that he had to keep up with the Rothchilds.And now he can go to bed in debt and everyone is going to say” nothing” because everyone is busy with there own problems, so let the music rock.

By: newcomer

newcomer — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 01:26:06 +0000

Earplugs are a great idea, but if I can’t enjoy anybody’s company, and can’t converse with my friends and relatives, cause my ears are plugged, then I may as well wish mazel tov, and leave the simcha.