Comments on: Out Of The Mailbag – To YW Editor (Cell Phone Addiction)

By: chan

chan — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 00:36:13 +0000

I fully agree that some people are addicted to their phones. I don’t think that cell phones are bad. They can be very helpfull. I think that this generation is using the cell phones as a fun toy rather than as something used to help you. I think the blue tooths are rediculous because it makes you look like you are talking to yourself and people are less concious about answering their calls with the blue tooth. People answer their calls in shul without a second thought when they have a blue tooth. I also think texting got way out of hand and is a major addiction to teanagers and even some adults. I hope people will learn to use their cell phones properly.

By: Proud of KAJ-WH TIDE

Proud of KAJ-WH TIDE — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 13:07:50 +0000

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I was in a hospital where the doctor who went to see a patient answered his cell phone 15 seconds after his patient began discussing his problems and then completely forgot about the patient.This doctor does it all the time.How about when you are in a public restroom and the person in the next stall is having a very intimate conversation.It is just left to the imagination what thr other end of the conversation is.People who are rude by using their cell phones are also just as rude in other aspects of their lives.Talking loud to someone when you are in the middle of the two conversants,like on a bus,is just as annoying.(Sometimes it can be very revealing) However,when they are speaking in a foreign language ,it is even more rude when done in front of those who do not understand them

By: lgbg

lgbg — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 21:19:22 +0000

pashute yid

i admit i got a phone. but b”h i wont call myself a slave to it! and anyways if a boy wont marry me because i dont got one. he aint for me!

and hearing trouble your kids did by PTA is also nachas. nachas that they learnt atleast something from their parents!

have a good shabbos

By: shkoyach

shkoyach — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 20:12:20 +0000

Picture this… PTA, parents coming in to meet with me and while I am in middle of discussing crucial situations involving their dear children… ringer goes off, Mommy says sorry one minute, she picks up the phone and begins yappin. I wait patiently and after a min or two I tell her that other parents are waiting outside. She motions 1 minute. Next parent while in mid of me again speakin about the student takes out her phone and makes a phone call! Dan l;kaf zchus- it must have been really important. But guess what I can see which one of my students belong to which set of parens… The chutzpanyaks are the kids of the chutzpadik parents!

IF YOUR CHILD SEES YOU HAVE NO RESPECT FOR OTHERS HE WILL DEFINITELY COPY YOU!!!!

I am makpid that unless it is important I dont pick up my phone while I am spending quality time with others.

This dor is getting so messed up I found students in the bathroom during classtime having a party on their phones.

besides the texting that goes on … especially btsn guys and girls that would “never” be seen talking to eachother.

By: seeallsides

seeallsides — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 19:10:56 +0000

We are all Guilty!!! – It’s just so much easier to see a breach of kovod habriyos or derech eretz when SOMEBODY ELSE is DOING IT – When “I” do something, then, of course, it’s understandable!
So let’s all try to see how our actions will look at the ‘ultimate’ playback, and work on improving ourselves. Meanwhile, it’s just embarrassing to see a line of people with cellphones outside a chasunah hall – the simchah is not captivating enough! and the sheer horror of a phone ringing during a hesped, a shiur, or kedushah – these are really terribly impolite actions, to say the least, and anyone with brains should avoid anything close to it!

By: theshmoozer

theshmoozer — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 17:54:27 +0000

Like everything else in the world, things can be used or abused.

While the use of cell phones as described above is certainly not a crisis, in of itself, it certainly reflects something that has truly reached crisis proportions (as the word crisis is defined by Merriam Webster). There is an aspect of kavod habrios towards other people that is sorely lacking among a lot of people. To talk on the phone while engaged with another human being and disregarding them as if they were nothing more than another chair in the room is a trmendous low in kavod habrios. It is only that much worse when done to hashem!

There is an amazing dichotomy that many people exhibit. On the one hand, they are the first to volunteer for any one of 500 different tzedakos and chesed organizations, while at the same time, will answer a phone while engaged with another person, or double park their card while inconveniencing 50 other people. On the one hand a profound sense of achdus is exhibited, while at the same time, totally ignoring the worth of another human being is being shown.

The discussion can take on many side issues such as tznius, health concerns and safety, but at the end of the day, the way one uses a cell phone in public is a statement by that person how they perceive themself among everyone else as well as how they perceive everyone else.

By: HEAD IN THE SAND

HEAD IN THE SAND — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 16:19:24 +0000

To # 34 -It is a lack of tzniyus to call attention to oneself in public. This includes not wearing clothing, wearing bright colored clothing, running, and yelling. Does talking on a cellphone in public call attention to a woman. Well that is the question, isn’t it? Are you so astounded that someone can have a svuruh that talking on the phone calls more attention to a woman than merely walking in public? And if you will say that walking in public is not a lack of tzniyus, there is to say that sarah imeinu and esther certainly thought so. (the midrashim clearly say so) and if you will say that we are not on a madreiga to act with such tzniyus, there is to say with righteous indignation: Keep it to yourself if you don’t want to be “so much” of a tznuah. Don’t impose your krumkeit on others.

By: Proud of KAJ-WH TIDE

Proud of KAJ-WH TIDE — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 15:44:45 +0000

By: jent1150

jent1150 — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 15:01:34 +0000

to..#51 what about mevaesh hatzibur…not to mention the heilige b’shefer..comes to “talk” to the eibishter then mafsik in middle and carries on conversation with boser v’dom just like that

By: lgbg

lgbg — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 14:42:16 +0000

good morning,
I am the one who posted this article on YW.

Thank you all for understanding there is a major problem here.

Just to clear some misunderstandings, and to add a couple of things:

*regarding cell phones and chuppas-picking up the phone in middle of a chuppah and texting is a huge lack of derech eretz, if you think about it, you came to the chasunah either for the chosson, kallah, or family friends, and your showing your friend in a way ‘that yes, I came but sorry, your not worth my full attention’.

*and the yid by the kosel was a woman who actually was just chatting to a friend of hers.
(btw- i don’t know if anyone remembers, there was an add in a local frum newspaper last year, of cell phones in front of the KOSEL, stating something like ‘can Hashem hear you?’ that is really sad!)

*being dan lekaf zechus someone looking up something on their phone in middle of davening is true. but to pick up the phone?? please, im sure the person on the other line can wait!

*and for those who ask what tzniyus has got to do with cell phones. Tzniyus also means PRIVACY.

*Just a side note. two nights ago i was in a resteraunt and there was a couple sitting in front of me. the husband was literelly ignoring his wife! he was focusing on his pathetic gadget! i felt like wripping it out of his hand! men and women please give attention to your spouse, it makes them feel so unwanted and like a burden!