And PS, correctly doesn’t mean always pushing chumros, an occasional kosher video, in moderation and with parental oversight, is often the exact right decision.
Hatzlacha to everyone…and don’t let people fool you, how your kids turn out is very much up to you.

I have both type of kids and I can tell you that however much you show your exploring kid what the dangers are, he will want to find out for himself.
Anyone who thinks that a teenager who enjoys a bit of fun will not join a party out of curiosity is totally naive.
These kids spend the whole day babysitting other people’s kids and by the end of the one or 2 weeks they are desperate for an outlet.
Then the text comes from a “friend” to join a little party and “chill”. Until they go there for the first time, they do not know what to expect.
Once they have arrived, peer pressure usually wins out and they find it hard and “not cool” to walk away. So they stay and even if they just watch they will see boys/girls getting high on alcohol and drugs and what usually follows is dancing etc…znus….
The kid is disgusted and cannot wait to get out of there, but something inside stirs and this lures them back to the next party. This time they are familiar with the routine and when asked to join a dance they accept the offer.
The third time they are waiting for the text message and dress up (down) for the occasion ….
What I am describing here is simply the techniques of the Yetzer Hora.
How did Benei Yisroel come to sin with Bnos Moav? Chazal say that outside the tents were old ladies dressed with headcovers and maybe face covers selling things. Once the men came to see what they were selling, the women told then that inside were much nicer items. Inside the tent were young girls dressed to kill and they seduced the men. Had they been on the outside, the men would have run away, but once they were “in” the tent and their interest had been tickled they were prey for the yetzer!
I am not sure that there is a way to prevent the kids going to the parties, but they should be well informed beforehand that these parties exist and should be told what goes on there. Warn them that those boys are not interested in a relationship however much they tell them how nice they look and how much they love them. They will probably not even recognize them the next day when they sober up.
They must be taught the difference between kosher fun and dangerous treif fun by telling them what the end results of the latter could be.
In addition, arrange as much entertainment for them for the evenings. Spend money on good games, kosher videos (yes!!! kosher videos!!!) and fun activities so that they will not be bored in the evenings.
Hashem Yaazor!!!

To #48: What does “alluring GOOD frum teenage boys and girls from the finest homes” even mean? Is your home ‘better’ than someone elses? Who makes that decision except Hashem, and he’s not printing it here. You also wrote this “has caused disasters in some of the most prestigous families in klal yisroel”. Most prestigious families? Again, where is this description of honor coming from? On what basis? We are ALL Jews, shomrei torah and mitzvos. How dare you use these types of nonsensical descriptions!! Why would the loss of ANY Jewish child matter more from any particular family?

The only solution is supervision. Kids in camp have counselors “in charge of them”, the camp administrators should make sure that someone is “in charge of” the counselors and younger staff, etc. This works well in camp environments. In bungalow colonies parents should be aware of what their children are up to at all times. If the parents are not there, don’t send the kids alone, make sure someone is in charge of them, everyone must have supervision. Any parent who does not do this is evil.

As a teenager, I worked in the mountains and that is where I met my ayshis chayil, who was working in a bungalow colony camp as a counselor. I am well aware of what does and can go on in camps and bungalows.

Most of the complaints I have read so far are about things to worry about with YOUNG children, which is NOT what working in a bungalow colony is about. The children who are working in camps or bungalow colonies are YOUNG ADULTS. They MUST be allowed to grow up. For those of you who think that there are no bad influences in camps or yeshivot and bais yakovs, let me shed some light on this: There are DRUGS and ALCOHOL in EVERY camp and yeshiva/bais yakov. There are NO exceptions to this. There are good and bad children in EVERY camp and yeshiva/bais yakov. There are NO exceptions to this. Its about time, that PARENTS take responsibilty for their children and not try to see who is going to be ‘responsible’ for them. It’s not the principals, the rebbeim, the teachers, the camp directors, counselors, or even Hashem who is responsible for them. YOU ARE!!!!! Stop blaming cell phones, TV, computers, the internet, movies, books, magazines, billboards etc. Start acting like adults and teach your children and be responsible for them. You have to talk to them and LISTEN to them. You have to explain to them and not just ASSUR things to them.