secularFrummy – That wasn’t what he said. He was talking about whether or not that is where you are at and if it is something you would or would not do in front of your kids or let them know about. For example, if you are someone who would never let your kids know that you are going to movie theaters, than you probably shouldn’t go. If it isn’t something you would have a problem sharing with your kids, than fine. His point was NOT to determine halacha based on those feelings, he was saying that if you are trying to raise your kids a certain way (or students etc) but are not living those rules, than the message does not pass as effectively. It’s like that “do as I say not as I do” rule which doesn’t really work.
ruthb – if your point in bringing this up was controversy or machlokes, I hope you will reconsider next time.
interjection – I agree. Except the part about that being how the ladies danced on tu ba’av. I would highly doubt people in those times would do those moves in public. I can barely watch it these days when it’s everywhere.