daasYochid etal- sorry for going awol. Mdg got me- thanks mdg for clarifying. I meant bashing yct and bashing this rabbi when noone knows who he is and if he is or isnt ‘reliable’.
I did not at all mean anything towards the OP.
And kavod- most agreed she did right declining the invitation, myself included, and even the way she did it. But many other posters and even some who did agree said that letting the rabbi know you wouldnt eat by him is a lack of kavod. Even if she would have told him straight out no, (assuming not embarrassing in front of others was a factor,) i dont understand why declining the invitation would be a lack of kavod. What’s improper about declining an invitation?