The topic of this thread touches on an issue with some Jewish campus organizations that I have had for some time. Some campus Jewish groups purport to welcome Jewish students of all backgrounds, but these groups seem to have more success in fostering a welcoming atmosphere for less observant students than for more observant students.
I have seen a campus Hillel facilitator work with students to add a Reform Friday night service in addition to the long standing Conservative one, but tell an Orthodox student interested in starting a weekday minyan, “any minyan held in this building has to be egalitarian.” Of course that was perhaps not entirely true, because I’m sure that if a non-Orthodox female student wanted to form a women’s “minyan”, it would have been fully supported.
One would think that a campus Jewish organization headed by an Orthodox rabbi would be more sensitive to the needs of frum students, but we see from this thread that apparently the buck still stops at the rabbi’s observance level. Rather than supporting and facilitating the OP’s desire to maintain her standards from home, the rabbi (perhaps unconsciously, though posters here have explicitly) pressured her to sacrifice her standards on the altar of kumbaya.
This rabbi is likely being paid to assist Jewish students with having a meaningful Jewish experience on campus. Upon hearing that this student feels uncomfortable eating out because of kashrus standards, instead of pressuring, perhaps he could offer to help this student with her observance. “Are you able to find all of the kosher items you need? Our campus group makes a monthly order to have kosher food from NY delivered; perhaps we can add cholov Yisroel milk to the order for you?” Isn’t that what the campus organizations are there for?