Reply To: Building A Kesher With Teachers.

sorry logician, im not letting u off so easy! i just didn’t have time to respond. now that i do, here’s what i have to Say:

First and foremost, i have heard 2 teachers explicitly say to a class that one of the main reasons that students should have a kesher with a teacher (besides for discussing a particular issue) is so that they will have who to turn to in the future if they need. and this, is actually my main problem! i don’t want a kesher with my teachers just in case i need something from them in the future, but i want a kesher with them because they are my role models. I really admire and look up to them and i can learn so much from them! therefore yes, i do want them for the future, but not just in case i would need them one day, i would want to constantly touch base with them and constantly learn from them.

So, when i heard the teacher say that the purpose of a kesher is so just in case we should ever need something in the future, we can turn to them, her tone made me sort of delfate. to me, it sounded like she said that they are taking us under their wing as a “nebach” or “chesed case” and help us until we leave high school. then, in the future, if we chas veshalom should bother them with our problems or ask them for something, they will be there.

ok, so i may be exaggerating a bit, but firstly, this teacher made it seem like building a kesher with a student is a job or a bother. Does it really have to be that way? and secondly, why is it that students have to have an issue to discuss in order to build a kesher with a teacher? can’t we just want to say hello and have a friendly conversation?!

(Note: input from teachers themsleves is welcome and sought for)