In response to both op as well as this comment,
“There definitely are chazals that say a women gets techiyas hameisim only through her supporting her husband’s and sons’ torah, because it can only be acquired through the mitzvah of talmud torah and that’s how women access that schar, but that is only one (albiet important) aspect of a woman’s avoda.”
It can’t be that the purpose of a woman is a vicarious existence depending on her husband and sons bec a) we are not required to get married and b) we are not required to have kids.
This used to bother me too until I realized that modern day Judaism is not what it was in the times of the bhmk. Women had more of a role and men didn’t use ‘kol kvuda bas melech pnima’ as an excuse to shove women into the shadows. Much of the feminist resentment comes from the fact that the general society (including non Jews) views women as tools and objects created for male entertainment and convenience.
Also op, the quote needs context. Who was he saying it to and why was he saying it? Perhaps he was trying to motivate a bochur to learn better.