Syag l’chochma: Well, why is it not my husband’s role to inspire me in MY endeavors, both personal and professional? Be a source of inspiration or comfort for the me so I can accomplish things.
The entire premise of that question is faulty.
Hashem created this world, with certain roles that different people have to fill, and then created those people. We were placed on this world to fulfill the tafkid which He created us for. The words of the Torah help us to understand the roles that men and women were created for.
You are looking at it backwards, though. You see yourself as being entitled to your life and existence, and that your role is being imposed upon you. It’s the reverse; you have a role to fill, and Hashem gave you the completely unearned gift of a life, in order to serve Him, and thereby earn reward, by fullfilling that tafkid.
Would a Yisroel be correct to question why he wasn’t created with the tafkid of a Kohen? Would a tree be correct to question why it wasn’t created as a human being?
And yes, the feminist movement, despite some worthy accomplishments, such as equal pay for equal work, was created to define men:s and women’s roles differently. Despite the fact that the Torah world has taken some advantage of the situation by tapping into women’s ability to earn money in order to allow for the men to learn more, it’s hard not to see the negative social impact.
Can one argue that the family unit has remained as strong as it once was? I think not; clearly it has greatly suffered with women’s roles being redefined in a more masculine way.