I didn’t mean to say it another way. That’s what we all do, anyhow. What I am saying is that although there are many people who simply want to be victorious even at the cost of foolish logic, not everyone is that way.
When you are hitting a wall in an argument (i.e. when your point is repeatedly dismissed without much of a counterpoint), it is obviously driven by some motivating factor. This factor can either be the desire to sound smarter or, more often, the view in argument might be born not from arguable logic, or from an understanding based on other factors which weren’t put into words.
The story I mentioned above was an argument with a friend. When I realized that reasoning didn’t change his mind, I asked him what is the real motivation to say what he says. Then we were able to deal with the real issue head on.