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By all means you should disclose. If it was a major enough life event that you’re even asking the question, you probably already know the answer.

I will take issue with the details, though. I agree with Syag Lchochma that a true addiction is not something that EVER goes away, and therefore it absolutely needs to be shared because it will affect a potential spouse. I need to point out as well that there is one item on your list that really doesn’t belong there: depression. First of all, like addiction, depression is not something that ever truly goes away. But more to the point, it’s not a “stupid regretable [sic] thing” that is “part of being human and making mistakes”. Depression is a clinical disorder. No one chooses it; no one asks for it; it’s not a “behavior” for which one needs to “do teshuvah”. (One might say that addiction is also clinical and out of the person’s hands, with the notable caveat that the addiction might have been avoided by not picking up the cigarette/alcohol/whatever behavior in the first place.) Also– both addiction and depression need to be properly treated and maintained. That is key. Because even if you think you are “over” it, if you stop going to AA meetings, stop taking meds, stop avoiding dangerous situations, whatever the case may be, you WILL backslide. There are so many cases of people who had their disorders completely under control and then got cocky. The results are always tragic.