Perhaps the OP and her like minded posters would do well to consider the last mishna in Taanit and related gemara. (why a girl would want to learn Talmud thread ha ha)
The fifteenth of Av AND Yom kippur were joyous days due to the flush of clenched shidduch deals. ( young ladies would dance in the vineyards and the young men would say “that one please”). There did not seem to be a shidduch crisis, and “you don’t know me” and randomness, or weird did not seem to matter much. It is interesting that the Mishna has it as “Bnos Yerushalayim, (those naughty Jerusalmites!) and the gemara has it as a general custom, Bnos Yisrael.