wow. I wish that every comment wasn’t so hostile one towards another. Beis Hillel and Beis shammai disagreed over and over but at the end of the day they were friends. They simply disagreed and rightfully so. Everyone needs to love and fear Hashem in the best way possible.
Our purpose is to take all these challenges and make the most of them, by doing so learning about our kochos and bring ourselves to IyH a newer spiritual level.
You don’t have to listen to anything I’m saying, but as someone who grew up exactly the way you are describing. I have true insight into the modern orthodox community, if we are going to put titles on it. I know there way of thought. I feel that as someone who understands both ends of the spectrum I’m trying to fill the gap. There are many flaws in both, but there are beatiful things in both as well. And im sorry everyone on this planet fails to see beauty in one another. But at the end of the day, even if the beauty is simply, they are doing what they know best to make Hashem happy, and so are we. wow we have something in common. amazing. and if you think that what they are doing is wrong, then intolerance, hating, spitting, talking badly (and i;m talking to bboth sides of the spectrum-everyone is at fault)are no going to change anything.
Hashem might not want them serving him the way they are. maybe they are wrong. but if you beleive that they are wrong and simply want to excommunicate them, then you are wrong too. Hashem doesn’t want that- Hashem doesn’t want sinas Chinam. It says in the Torah, something both sides of the spectrum understand VEAHATVA LERAYACHA CAMOCHA. everyone gets that. so start from there. If we learn to love each other, we will not only have more tolerance for one another, but we might have a hashpaa on people who need it.
again, please mochel me if you took what i was saying the wrong way.