FriendInFlatbush: It seems that the person you are referring to is trying to get validity to stop learning full time. Well let me bring to your attention that not every girl is cut out for a full time learner. Not every girl wants to depend on others to live. Having a job on the side or soem sort of degree in yoru back pocket is very important. There is nothing wrong with that. When i was dating, more than just someone learning, I wanted someone who is koveiah ittim. Not just a bench warmer. If that person was someone who worked half a day or in the evenings, thats fine. Everyone is different and has different circumstances. There is definitly nothing wrong with working part time. If you or the person you are referring to has a concern that his learning may be affected negatively, then maybe he should ask his rosh hayeshiva or a rebbe he’s close to.
The Goq, Veltz Meshugener, WIY, agittayid: +1!
keepitcoming: exactly! no one should do something because society says so.
sem613: it shouldnt depend on the community you live in. It should depend on the boy himself. If working part time and being koveiah ittim part time works for him, imho, i think it’s more important than a ‘whole day bench warmer’.
ubiquitin: Interesting that you tok a different approach then just about everyone else! Good one!