I want to know if you think that one is meant to unconditionally love their spouse”
This is a good question. I think that one ideally should love one’s spouse unconditionally UNDER REASONABLE CIRCUMSTANCES, meaning that the spouse is not being physically and/or emotionally abusive, and that the spouse is upholding the reasonable expectations of being that spouse. Unconditional LOVE is good. Unconditional TOLERANCE (of bad behavior, dishonesty, abuse, untruthfulness,substance abuse etc.) is NOT. You can love someone, but hate some of their actions.