“Why are you accusing me of transgressing the commandment to not hate my fellow Jew?”
I thought it was pretty obvious that I did not mean you were over the issur of hating your fellow Jew. I am saying you are bound to dislike these people who ruin your davening. who wouldn’t dislike such people and how far is the barrier between strongly dislike and hate or very annoying and hate? If the president or rov of the shule does not shush people up it means that the shule is not suitable for you, you deserve better.