First of all, go onto the babiesrus web site. There you can down load a list of things you will need for a first child. THEN, go over the list with someone who has kids and they will tell you what is a waste and what is not.
Next go shopping with consumer reports. It will tell you which is the safest car seat, crib brand, etc.
Next, go into a large store and just look, try wheeling different strollers to see which fits your height, etc.
It MUST recline fully for a newborn.
Regarding passies, well, each child will like a different one, so when it is time, go into a store and buy several different ones and see which your baby will use. (it takes time, sometimes for the child to get used to one.)
I think a changing table is a lifesaver, you can dress, bathe your child, and underneath shelve your sheets, waterproof pads, clothes, diapers, etc.
A swing is a lifesaver !! So is the exersaucer when the child is around 5 months old.
The baby carriers are wonderful, BUT it has to be a perfect fit. Try them on ONLY after you have the baby, with the baby (bring your husband or Mom along)
Stack your sheets & waterproof pads on the crib so when the baby wets during the night, all you have to do is pull off the wet, and you will have a dry layer. (I and my daughters’ do 5 layers at a time.)
Do your research now, you can set up a baby registry in many stores so when someone asks you what you need, just refer them to your registry and you will get exactly what you want.
Mazal & Bracha !!