<i>Wheres their own motivation to do whats right? </i>
Apparently they’re not getting that motivation…maybe it’s time to change the attitudes we use when teaching tznius. Because according to the “contemporary BY system”, girls are supposed to have as many kids as she can, raise the kids (chas v’shalom a woman should ask her husband for help in the house!), take care of the house (ditto), support her husband and family (chas v’shalom a man should help with that in any way, including with babysitting!), and of course, restrict HERSELF because of the MEN’S taivos. For many teenagers going through the system, they feel, what’s in it for me? Is it any surprise that they’re trying to push out in any way they can??? I agree with many of the posters here, I think it’s time to rethink the attitudes we give girls towards tznius. Personally, my tznius growth came with a growth in self-respect. Suddenly, I could cover more yet maintain my self and personality. I think many girls could benefit from a lesson in this way…