Years ago I had a huge goiter on my thyroid. I was physically unable to do the first 2 buttons of my blouse because it was so swollen. One day, sitting waiting for a shur to begin a lady comes over to me and says loudly No thats wrong and begins to do up my blouse!I have since had it out and am B”H fine.
I learnt then how important it is to tell people tactfully…
I know I have written it before but we need to remember Rebetzin Braunstein z”l always said: that as men have the Mitzvah of learning Torah we Have the Mitzva of Tzinuis. We sometimes look at ladies and think “She is so so frum, because she dresses modestly”
Its not out of our reach and after 120 we will be asked if we dressed modestly, (among other things connected to Tzinuus)