So your claim is that you’re not trying to guilt-trip anyone, just that you’re trying to make them feel emotions you think they should be feeling? In other words, that’s called a guilt trip.
My entire point still stands. You are attempting to circumvent actual Halachic limits with an emotional response. You’re “krechtz”ing that people want to know the Halachah. Quite frankly, if I have to say one person in this conversation who is disconnected from proper feelings, it’s not the one asking the Shaila.