I’m not disagreeing with you, just want to point something out for the sake of being dan lkaf zchus.
Many people are afraid to reach out to people in need (be it divorcee or any other need lo alainu) because although their assistance can be a great help, if done slightly wrong they’ll do more damage than good. Helping others requires tact. Recipients are usually very sensitive and can be easily hurt.
Did you ever try to help an older person with their packages, only to be shouted at, “im not THAT old!”? People have pride and dont like to feel helpless, offering help to the wrong person can be very offensive.