brotherofurs –
It is sad. The truth is I don’t think there’s a real philosophical issue here. Sometimes people go through a traumatic event and they are powerless to stop it and they have a need to blame someone or express their pain and frustration and God is the obvious choice. But it’s a problem really for therapy, not for kiruv. She’s an adult and runs her own life, but I think if you want to help her the best way would not be to show her the error of her ways, because I don’t believe she’s truly coming at it from a logical angle in the first place. Try to get her to read books or get professional counseling to deal with her pain. Tell her you aren’t going to discuss whether she’s right or wrong about God and prayer etc. because what’s important now is that she’s hurting and the fact that she has someone to blame won’t really remove the pain from her heart, so it would be worthwhile for her to try to get help in dealing with the pain in a healthy way. Once this happens, and it’s a process of course, hopefully her feelings of pain will start to ease, and then she will naturally be more receptive to accepting God back into her life.