oyyoyyoy and Sam2: Her parents are the ones with the money (a very large percentage of which they can still recoup at this stage if her seminary is anything like my seminary).
Sam2: In the case you mentioned, do you mean that the kid can force the parents to pay for his preferred yeshiva or that if the kid can get scholarships and pay independently then he can ignore his parents?
I’m actually thinking a little about that story in Mishpacha this week with the rebbi who encouraged his talmid to ignore his parents who wanted him to go home from yeshiva and go to college. (Though in the case of the story, even if the talmid should have stayed lefi Torah, it was not the rebbi’s place to convince him to defy his parents IMHO.)
PAA: I obviously agree with you. The point of my post is not to say that her parents are crazy for thinking what they think and feeling what they feel- it’s just what (to be honest here) helped me get used to the idea that I’m going to a war torn country. For me, thinking about it intellectually helped, and I merely presented those intellectual and logical arguments if she wanted to use them on her parents. Obviously they didn’t work.